Preparing for 2018-5 Tips for Welcoming the New Year

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It is Sunday December 3rd and I am sitting in a hotel room in Scottsdale, AZ thinking about how crazy it is we are at the end of 2017. What a quick trip through!

I am thankful though. 2017 has been one of the more challenging years for many people (as according to Facebook!) including myself. Alot of public upsets, public and personal deaths, hospital stays and personal tragedies. Goodbye 2017, we are ready to be done!

What I absolutely love about endings, is that there is always a new beginning right around the corner. In this case, the promise of a new year and a chance to start fresh. It’s like wiping the slate clean and saying, “All right Spirit, let’s try this thing called Life again.”

Usually in December, I tend to be in a reflective mood. I recount all the happenings of the year and reread journals to get a sense of where I have been and what I have been through. It is getting closure by celebrating the wins and putting to rest one last time, the losses…because I never intend to take these losses into the New Year with me.

I thought this was a natural process for everyone but quickly discovered, it was not. At our last New Year New You retreat held in January this past year, Rob and I discovered that people rarely take time to journal and reflect on their experiences. Our students were so excited about their journaling experiences because it brought forward so many realizations and put everything they went through into perspective. It took the emotional charge off of their past hurts and pains and allowed them to sit in the silence of gratitude for the experiences. It was indeed eye opening for some.

The great thing about the end of this year is we also have a mercury retrograde period from December 3rd-December 21st. A Mercury retrograde period according to astrology, is a period when planet Mercury goes backwards in movement. Mercury being the resident planet of communication, logical thinking, technology and transportation means that in a retrograde period, you can almost always see signs of delays in travel, technology malfunction and communication issues arise. People with alot of Virgo and Gemini signs in their natal chart tend to be mostly affected as well. As depressing as it may sound, I have actually come to embrace the Mercury Retrograde periods. Because logic is at bay and emotions are in full swing, I tend to take this time to do some serious reflection and meditation. It is the perfect time for insights to be delivered AND received because psychically, we are more in a state of allowance.

As we slowly wind down the end of this year and get ready for the New Year, I encourage you to use the beautiful energy of this Mercury Retrograde to create closure for 2017 and fill hope for 2018. All of life is a process. We are never going, going, going all the time. Sometimes we need space to just Be, just Breathe and just sit awhile. Let this month be that time for you. I mean, all the planets are aligning for you to have this moment of stillness in time, why not take them up on their offer? ūüėČ

Here are some ideas on how to properly use this energy to set yourself up energetically to be ready for 2018:

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  1. Journal and Reflect on 2017. 

As quickly as 2017 came and went, it still happened and for most of us, there were some pivotal moments in time that took our breath away….for good or for bad reasons. Have you processed all of them completely? In my two day¬†New Year New You Workshop, I coined Saturday as “Out with the Old” and Sunday as “In with the New”. On Saturday I take participants through this journaling exercise using a workbook where they answer questions about the year and it asks them to dig deep into understanding what all of it meant. You can do this at home too and create your own workbook according to your desire. It can be as simple as three questions:

  • What were my challenges this year?
  • What were my wins/accomplishments?
  • What did I learn?

The idea here is the have some sort of summary report on 2017 so going forward, when you look back, you can sum it up in one sentence. I saw a post on Instagram by a friend where she described her annual summaries as, “2016 I was the caterpillar, 2017 I was the cocoon and 2018 I will be the butterfly.”

Having an idea of each year gives meaning to your life and tells a story as you go along. You can see the intricacies of how all the painful and joyous moments worked together to create the fabric of your life story. For me, it is empowering. It gives life to the those joyous moments which sparkle like gold glitter in the air and it brings humbleness and gratitude for the painful moments that made me stronger. Everything has a purpose, and in journaling we find out what they are.

2. Declutter the Home 

In journaling and reflecting on 2017, you are in a way, energetically clearing up space in your mind, heart and body about events past. Why not physically clear out your physical surroundings as well?

There is an energetic link between our home where we live and our home in our minds. When we feel good at our physical abode, our energetic abode feels good too. Simply put, a clean home makes you feel relaxed mentally and emotionally.

Now is a good time to go through those drawers and throw out things you do not use or have not used in forever. Go through your filing cabinet and shred old documents you no longer need. I remember in cleaning out my office space in 2016, I found old test results from massage school in 2008! I assure you, I have no plans to retake the tests, so out it went with the trash!

Go through your closets and donate clothing and jackets in good condition to homeless shelters or organizations that can use them. This doesn’t have to be a solo event, make it fun for the whole family and treat everyone to a nice dinner after dropping off your items to a donation spot. OR get a jump start on your spring garage sales by rounding up and collecting all sellable items and storing it away in the basement or garage until Spring rolls around. Just remember to bring them out next year and sell or donate them then!

3. Financial Planning 

Most of us do not include any financial planning in our lives, living simply paycheck to paycheck. If this has been your agenda in the past, do not bring it into the future with you. Financial planning can take on many forms, from hiring a professional financial planner, to discussing ideas with your accountant to a much simpler plan like the ideas listed here:

  • Pay off Debts: Some debts you cannot pay off within three weeks (mortgages, school loans etc..) however some you can! If you owe loved ones money, pay them back. If you can pay off one of those three credit cards, then do so. The idea here, is that by paying off what you can, you energetically lift some of that heavy energy from you and you will feel it almost immediately. This is the energy you want to bring into 2018 with you, even if you can only do it for one person or one bill, it still makes an impact.
  • Set up a Savings plan: If you are not currently saving, start today. Life happens and it is nice to have money put aside for those unexpected issues that come up. Start small by putting away $25/week. If you consistently did that for each week in 2018, you can create a savings account at the end of the year with $1200 in it! The trick is not to spend that $1200 but allow it to sit there and then increase your amount in 2019 to $30/week so you can add another $1440 to your account. If you don’t spend any of it, you can have $2640 within two years!
  • Create more Income: If you are financially stable and happy then this step is not for you. However for most of us, we can do with some extra money so think ahead to 2018 about carving out some extra work. Take on a part time job, take a hobby you are really good at and create a work from home opportunity or look around your home and sell off items you no longer need or use but are in good shape. We have opportunities all around us to create more income, it just takes some time and effort to put them into practice to generate that income we can use.

4. Make Amends

As we go through life, we have disagreements and upsets with people in our community. Whether it is our inner circle or acquaintances, there are bound to be times of disruption and unrest. Let it go.

As you move into 2018, allow yourself to let go of the drama and heartache you went through this year with these people. If they really mean something to you, then reach out to them and apologize. Even if you don’t think you were in the wrong, apologize anyways. There is a great saying, “It is better to be kind than to be right.” When you apologize and make amends, what you are essentially saying to that person is, “I don’t care if I am wrong and you are right. I just care about having you in my life. Can we make up now? I miss you and want you in my life.”

Of course you cannot dictate how the other person will respond, but trust me when I say, it wouldn’t matter. At the core of your being, you are Love. And in extending an olive branch, you are acting out of Love. If they chose not to accept it, you will still feel relief because you know in your heart, you made the decision to reach out and there is nothing else you can do after that. You will feel lighter despite the outcome and that in of itself, is worth the exercise.

Now there are some relationships where the pain is still too great to bear. Maybe you are in the middle of a divorce and your partner is attacking you. Maybe you still work with your boss who is aggressive in interactions towards you and you are not in a position to leave. You might ask then, what do I do? These people are not interested in making amends or being peaceful. In situations where you feel the person will not be receptive or you are not in an emotional place to do such a thing, then let go energetically.

A simple technique is to light a candle and write your letter to that person saying everything you have ever wanted to say including the good, the bad and the downright ugly. Once you get it ALL out on paper, burn it and make the intention to God/Source/Universe or whoever it may be, that you are letting go of this situation and this person energetically and in the new year, you intend to see them with fresh eyes and hope they do the same for you. It really is like magic! When I have suggested these techniques to my clients in coaching sessions, they have reported back with some amazing results where the other person stopped attacking them and for one person, her boss got transferred to another department! Wishes DO come true!

5. Set your Intentions for the New Year 

A home cannot be built without a foundation. Many times in the Spiritual community, I hear students say something like “Spirit is directing me and I have no plan, I go where Spirit is taking me.” That is a great concept but even Spirit needs a map to your future!

If you are not as uptight as my Capricorn self and do not want to create bullet points and quarterly assessments about your new years resolutions (true story), then do a vision board. Cut out pictures that represent what you want for your life. If you want a new home, new car or to be in a love relationship, put pictures on your board that represent those ideals. A Vision Board is a fun way to set your Intent for the New Year and gives Spirit an idea of where you are heading and what you want to create.

I hope you found these tips useful and if so, please feel free to share with your loved ones or leave a comment! It is my sincere hope that everyone brings a peaceful end to 2017 and enter 2018 full of desires, well wishes and manifesting ability. I believe we all are truly meant to have it all, and with a little vision and planning, we can.

xo Uma

healer, psychic, spirit communciator

Owner of Lotus Wellness Center

Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of a metaphysical center in Manassas, VA where she teaches classes in Spiritual Development and offers services in energy healing, life coaching and intuitive readings. For more information, visit www.umalotusflower.com.

Posted on: December 3rd, 2017 No Comments

Essential Oils for Beginners

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Essential oils have been around for centuries but only recently began a rise to fame with the onset of popular oil producing industries such as DoTerra and Young Living.

As a wellness advocate for DoTerra and a certified level I aromatherapist, I love sharing my knowledge and expertise with oils with my clients. It is my intent to do so now with this article, to bring awareness and education to the general public of the wonderful, therapeutic benefits of essential oils as well as answer some popular questions concerning my involvement with an oil company.

Let’s start at the beginning.

What are essential oils?

Essential oils are natural, aromatic compounds extracted from seeds, bark, stems, roots, flowers, and other parts of a plant. Essential oils contain natural and unique properties that can have powerful benefits on a person’s health and wellness.

How do you use essential oils?

There are three known methods for oil usage but one of them is debatable in the oils community. Let’s discuss each:

  1. Aromatic: This is the most popular use of oils. Smelling them! This is also the easiest and safest way to use oils. All you have to do is buy a diffuser, drop 1-2 drops (more and it is too strong for me) in the water and voila! Beautiful smells in your room and therapeutic as well.
  2. Topical: You can use essential oils topically which means applying them to your skin. There are two ways to do this (depending on the nature of the essential oil), neat or diluted. Diluted means these essential oils should be mixed with a carrier oil to prevent sensitivity for the wearer. A carrier oil is a lipid based substance use to dilute oils (common carrier oils are coconut or jojoba oil). Neat means an essential oil can be applied topically to the skin without dilution because this particular oil has mild chemistry.
  3. Internal: Essential oils that can be used internally by adding them to beverages, food, use essential oil supplements or adding them to veggie caps for consumption. This method is the most controversial in the oil community because some say it is dangerous and risky and some say it has been done throughout history and it is fine.

How do I include oils in my daily regime?

There are lots of ways to use oils! Here are a few of my personal favorite oils and methods in using them:

1. Lavender:

  • Can be used topically or aromatically to increase relaxation and reduce stress.
  • Add a few drops to your pillow or diffuse at night time for restful sleep.
  • Add a few drops to a bath to soak away stress and relax the body

2. Peppermint:

  • Can be used on temples and back of neck for headaches and relieve tension.
  • Add to shampoo or conditioner for a stimulating scalp massage.
  • My personal favorite is to add to my morning shake to add a pepperminty taste and alleviate stomach upset.

3. Lemon:

  • Add to a spray bottle of water to clean kitchen surfaces (works so well!).
  • Add to water to create alkaline water for consumption.
  • Use to remove gum, glue or any other sticky residues.

4. Melaleuca (Tea Tree):

  • Apply to facial cleanser or after shaving for added cleansing properties.
  • Good for cuts, infections or wound healing.
  • Use as an effective surface cleaner like lemon oil.

5. Frankincense:

  • Apply topically to help reduce the appearance of skin imperfections, fine lines and wrinkles!
  • Diffuse during meditation for relaxation and balance.
  • Take internally to support healthy cellular and immune function.

 

Bottom line is simple, there are many oils and many therapeutic benefits associated with each oil. You don’t need to figure it out yourself! This is where someone like me and my team come in. We take the necessary training and have the experience with each oil to share our information with you.

If you are in the Northern Virginia area, stop by one of our monthly Essential Oils 101 classes. You can find a calendar of our oil events here: www.meetup.com/thelotusandthelight.

If you have been clicking on the links to each oil, you would have been taken to my website and seen the retail prices. My advice is simple, sign up for a membership and get the wholesale price for the oils. If you are interested in adding oils to your daily routines this is my recommendation:

  1. Contact me today to discuss your options and what products you would use for your goals.
  2. If you wanted to do it on your own without my help, check out the products on my website www.mydoterra.com/lotuswellness1. You can either sign up for a wholesale account (think Costco for oils! You pay $35 annual fee and can get the lower prices) or buy them retail.
  3. Whichever option you go with, my suggestion is to get the Home Essentials Starter Kit. If you worked out the pricing for the 10 oils, free gift, diffuser and an annual enrollment fee, it works out to be an inexpensive option!

I have felt so empowered following the oil track and being able to take care of myself and loved ones. And that to me, is the greatest gift I can give myself.

Love and light until next time,

Uma xo

 

 

 

Posted on: October 6th, 2016 No Comments

Hypnosis: The Inner Workings of the Mind

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Hypnosis, you either like it or are scared of it. That is generally the reactions I have been getting since my hypnosis certification in January. So of course‚Ķ..I have to blog about what Hypnosis really is and how it can help you ūüôā

When I first heard of my teacher Tim Horn of Hypnoconsult LLC¬† as a hypnotist, I was fearful. You want to “put me under” and do what?! I shudder to think back to those early days of my ignorance and how uncomfortable I must have made Tim feel. I asked him every cliched thing in the book I could because well, honestly my knowledge of hypnosis was based solely on tv shows!

“Are you going to make me cluck like a chicken?” ¬†No.

“Am I not going to remember?” No.

“Am I going to look stupid?” You do that on your own. ūüėČ

But thankfully, Tim is a patient man and he suffered through my silly questions in order to educate me about his profession. Am I glad he did! When I met Tim years ago, we did a trade where I offered him massage in exchange for hypnosis. I was dealing with overweight issues and had a sweet tooth unfortunately. To this day I remember my first hypnosis session with Tim clearly and was so impressed with it, that I went on to take training through Tim’s program and become a certified hypnotist myself.

Here are some things to note about my personal experience with hypnosis:

1) I remember most to everything said

Many times the fear associated with hypnosis is that we will be “under some type of spell” and not conscious of what is happening. Then the evil hypnotist can take advantage of us! Well media had something to do with that because when I was hypnotized, I was very aware of what was happening, albeit in a relaxed state. To best describe it, I can hear car alarms going off and dogs barking, but I have no desire to move or respond, I am in such a peaceful state.

2) Hypnosis works! 

Hypnosis works because while in the hypnotic state, a client is more open to suggestions. Our analytical and calculating conscious mind is resting, so the subconscious mind is in full play, and this mind tends to be more open and accepting of new ideas. If I could imagine my mind talking, it would look like this for me:

Hypnotist: You feel very happy when you are exercising, in fact you crave exercising, you crave it so much, you want to do it everyday for at least an hour at a time.

Conscious mind: no way dude! I have sciatica pain, do you know how that will hurt? and where will I find the time? An hour! are you kidding me?!

Subconscious mind: Okay.

When Tim hypnotized me, we addressed my love of chocolate cake. Ohhh its sinful. I can eat a whole cake by myself. I remember vaguely him saying that I don’t really care for chocolate cake anymore and it reminds me of sweaty socks. No lie, to this day, i can probably have a bite or two of chocolate cake but then I hear Tim’s voice about the sweaty socks and I stop eating immediately! This is three years later!

3) Changes are permanent

Just like my chocolate cake dilemma, other new behaviors have embedded within me. Hypnosis doesn’t address your conscious mind, it address the subconscious realm which dictates 85% of our behavior in real time. When you have one session with a hypnotist, usually you notice results right away. I tend to offer a three pack session when working because in each following session, I build on the first one to really anchor the suggestion down. This makes the change more permanent and a greater possibility to last.

4) You are awake and cognizant

If there was a fire in the building, I would jump up and run out with everyone else. Hypnosis does not prevent you from self survival or put you in harm. Remember in the subconscious realm, you are open to suggestions ONLY IF it is acceptable to you. If I was with a hypnotist and she tried to assault me physically in any way, I would stop her because I would not be open to that behavior. I explain this in detail to clients because there is the general fear about getting hypnotized by a male hypnotist and being taken advantage of. This is nonsense! While I can’t speak for ALL male hypnotists, I can speak for the few I know (Tim and Rob) and believe me, they are interested more in helping you overcome your addictions and problems than peeking down your shirt. Have some faith people!

All in all, I have had some tremendous success with my hypnosis clients. I have worked on a woman who had social anxiety issues and she reported back that she went out to a bar with friends that weekend. I have worked on a man with smoking addictions and he quit after the first session. I have also worked on a woman with weight loss goals and she has lost over 20 pounds and now crave healthy foods.

Curious? Give it a try! I am including my contact info as well as my friends who do it as well. We are here to help and hypnosis truly does work.

Uma: uma@lotuswellnesscenter.net

Tim: timhornphd@aol.com

Rob: reikiwlb@gmail.com

Posted on: June 27th, 2016 No Comments

Do I need a Life Coach?

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HI there! Uma here! and coming to you with this new certification I recently received and my clients have been enjoying. So let’s jump right in, shall we?

What IS Life Coaching?

I know, I know the title is somewhat depressing. I mean when I first heard of it, my initial thought was “So you mean to tell me I suck so bad at life, I need a coach?!” Who wants to hear that ever?

Well turns out, I had a bad attitude about it (foot in mouth syndrome) because not only did I spend a year with a life coach and completely turned my life around, but I became one too!

My Personal Journey

I have my own stuff to worry about.¬†Sometimes people forget I have a back story. They look at the thriving wellness center, my loud and fun personality, my wonderful kids and think “She has it all.”¬†I know this because this is what people have told me. To my face. In real time. And I am always shocked. I have a lot going on too! How do you not see the mess within me?

Now don’t get me wrong, I am an AMAZING healer/speaker/teacher/author (duh!) and it IS because of all the experiences I went through in life however the back story is real. And it was beginning to come to the front more and more.

I spent a year seeing a therapist. Every week. No kidding. I have to say, she did a lot for me. She validated how I was feeling and taught me that my thoughts and feelings are real regardless of how other people felt about it. I am incredibly grateful for her because I don’t think I would be here today without all of her amazing help. However. Once I worked through my ISH, I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t have anything else to talk about. I was feeling real peaceful with my past. However, I was having some serious issues in my present.

Luckily as faith would have it, a life coach came into my life last year in the form of my boyfriend Rob Pritchard. Rob is the owner of the Healing Frequency and an amazing person and healer. When we initially got together, we thought it was a match made in heaven! Two healers with their own businesses, similar interests and friends dating? How does it get better?

Well it didn’t. It got worse! What no one tells you in this divine match up is that we each became a very good, clean, shiny mirror for the parts of ourselves we weren’t too happy with. I saw myself in full regalia and I didn’t like it one bit.

This is where the life coaching came in. Thankfully Rob didn’t run (whew!) but he chose to help me through it. He knew I was reacting to the mirror and he didn’t take anything personally but kept reminding me of the greatness that lay within me, albeit dormant, but coming to the surface. For a year, I fought with him like a rabid dog on the loose, but he never let up and he never gave in. He remained firm, he remained stoic and I loved him even more.

I came out of 2015 a new woman. I came out feeling confident, sure of myself and for the first time in 38 years, independent. I didn’t need Rob or anyone else for my happiness, I found it within myself. And that is in part due to my own inner work but mostly to Rob’s life coaching skills and me finally taking a knee and listening.

This year I took the certification course in life coaching with Rob because I saw just how beneficial it was and it changed my perspective ALOT on life coaching. A coach is not someone yelling at you and beating you down but instead someone who is more like your partner in helping you achieve your goals.

What is a Life Coach:

  • A sounding board when exploring choices
  • A motivational mentor
  • One who gives unconditional support
  • A wake up call and a reality check in
  • A designer to help create a more productive life
  • A referee to help clients push the envelope
  • A beacon during stormy times

I have been all of these things and so much more to my recent clients who have signed on for their coaching sessions. There is so much work to be done and sometimes we can get overwhelmed in life. I recently had a client who felt wishy washy about what she wanted to do in life and her life purpose. After our coaching session, she realized she had a deep desire to follow a path but the amount of work it took made her fearful and anxious, that is why she kept going back and forth.

Right now you are probably thinking, “hmmmm I could probably use a coach myself. I definitely got some areas in my life that need cleaning up.”

So what do you do? Well first there needs to be a deep desire and willingness to want to change and grow. If you come in as a client because someone else is making you do it, it will not work because you are not personally vested. When you are all in the game, I am ready to work with you because I know the desire is there to make a change.

Once you decide to contact a coach and set up your session, you are well on your way! Besides the major result of getting you from where you are now and where you ultimately want to be, there are many other benefits to coaching:

Benefits of Life Coaching:

  • You will BE in action as you determine and set goals with your coach. Finding out what you really want and what goals to set is the first course of action. Rob made me realize my time management was all wrong if I wanted to accomplish the mega life I wanted, so through his guidance I created a time management plan that I am still using a year later!
  • Create a balanced life because you designed it. A coach will not tell you what to do, that is not what coaching is about. Instead they will ask questions and have you ponder and think about what you want to do.
  • Help you to “push the envelope”. Your coach will nudge you out of your comfort zone without having you feel overwhelmed by the process. You will feel safe reaching for more because your coach is your partner and will be by your side as you do it.
  • Help you make better decisions. Now that your focus is defined and clear, you can see things clearly and know what you need to do for your particular issue.
  • Develop more energy! This was an unexpected side effect that I welcomed! When Rob started clearing through my belief patterns, it relieved a lot of energy I had tied up in it and I started working out more and getting more things done. What a treat!
  • Help Clear up Unresolved Issues. This was a big one for me. Most of us need closure and most of us feel we need another person’s blessing for closure. With a coach we start to see the situation as it is and we resolve it for ourselves. It is a truly freeing moment to experience this.

There are many more reasons why coaching works and has helped so many people in life. The most important reason for me though is¬†Accountability. A Coach will hold you accountable for any steps planned.¬†This is where our friends and loved ones can’t go. They sympathize with us, they understand when we don’t have energy to do our homework because the kids were sick or you need to make dinner. Not a coach! A coach will EMPATHIZE with you but they will not join you in your little pity party. They may give you a day to get yourself together (thanks Rob!) but then its back to the grind.

I loved the accountability part of coaching because sometimes I like many people let certain goals drop. There is a reason why resolutions aren’t completed! As humans we fall somewhere along the line. A coach will keep a running tab on your homework and commit to meeting you at the finish line. Trust me, my coach is still here. ūüėČ

So do you think this is for you? Can I be your coach? Sure I can! It just takes your determination to decide so. I am so excited about this new certification i have that I want to share it with you! So for the month of April, I am offering a 30% discount on the 90 minute session I created for my clients. It involves coaching to go through the issues you are dealing with and we end with some Reiki energy work to balance and soothe your energy.

Don’t wait! Book this appointment today! Email me at uma@lotuswellnesscenter.net. You can also opt to have a one hour coaching session without Reiki whether in person or by phone as well!

Until next time,

Love and light

xo Uma xo

Posted on: April 1st, 2016 No Comments

Action speaks louder than words

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“What is Energy?”

For a moment, I was knocked off my flow and actually took a step back to digest this new question. It wasn’t that I couldn’t answer it‚Ķ.I have plenty of times‚Ķbut that was¬†years ago when I first started out as a professional healer.

Now standing in my eight year as an established healer and known name in the community. I guess I got…..well I got lazy.

I got use to being around the energy people! the light workers, meditators, yogis, Gods and Goddesses and all divine light beings everywhere. I recently saw a video one of my students posted and laughed out LOUD because truly this is a raw depiction of how my crew and I talk! (access it here)

However as much fun it is to be around the spiritual and free thinkers of the world‚Ķam I still making a difference? Sure, of course I make a difference to those I help in session but did I get too comfortable being here? Where talk of chakras and third eyes reign supreme and everyone knows I’m out of control every Mercury Retrograde season?

I was invited by the local library in my town to give a talk to the Over 50 community. This group meets once a month, have lunch and listen to a speaker on a different topic. I was asked to talk about Reflexology.

While Reflexology is not completely¬†woo woo as my comrades would say, it still follows along the lines of what I do in the metaphysical community. Reflexology follows the idea that there are pressure points on the feet that correspond to organs and body systems in the body. Apply pressure on a point and it will release any blockages along the meridian it corresponds to. Simple right? It sounds like that to me until a woman from the audience asked me, “Blockages in what?” to which I replied quite easily as I worked on my volunteer’s feet, “Blockages to energy.” And here we are, at the beginning of this blog.

Truth is, I got comfortable being in my little niche in the world. It felt good, really good to be around like minded people who understand you and get your vibe. However this wasn’t what I set out to do, in fact it was downright selfish. I was only pleasing myself by staying comfortable.

I am not saying we all need to be out there in the “regular” world everyday talking about our work, our craft and our lives‚Ķbut we do have some responsibility to people who have no idea of all the goodies we get to play with on a daily basis.

As I looked out to the audience of thirty something over 50 people, I felt compassion and unconditional love flow over me. I quite gently went into my talk on energy and of course, the further I went down that rabbit hole, the more questions came up. “What are past lives?” “What is Reiki?” “What is Access Bars?” and on and on it went, the hunger and thirst real.

There were no judgments or discrimination (only one woman remarking to another woman that her faith does not allow her to believe in past lives but Uma is so down to earth and approachable, she is ok with me talking about it), only eagerness and hope. Hope.

I forgot. I forgot what it was like to live in the regular world where things were solid and diagnosis made by people in white coats were frightening and life ending. I felt like a mother to all who attended and yes it took me another half hour to get out of there after the talk because I fielded so many questions. I talked to many, listened to their stories, their pain and silently in my mind, blessed them and sent them energy. I pray they follow up with me (and at the time of writing this, one has made an appointment) and I can help them see the world in a whole new way, as I have come to understand it.

As I was walking out, there was a shy woman waiting in the corner and I walked up to her and said hello. She smiled and said, “Uma, my husband and son spend lots of money on guns and ammunition. I have decided I am going to spend money on myself and come see you for healing. I need it.” I read her energy and felt her tiredness, her sacrifices for her family and her devotion to others. Already she was healing just by making the choice, the decision to do something for herself. I smiled at her gently and said, “Let’s do it.”

Its not enough for us to be light workers in the world. Its not enough for us to focus on our own self healing and personal journeys. We need to bring people along with us. The thirst is real as the popular slang goes…so are you going to water your own soil or are you going to turn the hose around and help others? The choice is always there.

So what are my suggestions for awakened people living the natural and spiritual life to do? Glad you asked! Here are some easy ways to get the word out to others:

  1. Start a blog. Blogging is a great way to share your personal soul journey and the trials and joys of it all. It makes you more relatable and being on the world wide web, the whole world can tune in to you.
  2. Post on social media uplifting memes and add your personal touch to it. If I post a picture of a kitten massaging another kitten (yes I have), I put a little comment that I always feel better after a massage. When you post comments or questions it leaves open dialogue for others to start a discussion.
  3. Offer to speak at community events or places like a library! Most times venues are happy to have a free speaker as professional speakers can charge into the hundreds for an hour. This way you can share your knowledge and also get credibility in your community. It is a win-win for everyone!

I hope this blog moves you in some way. I know I was deeply touched by the outpouring of interest in what I do and sometimes have taken for granted from time to time. But its ok. I am going to take a nice hot bath with epsom salts and my crystals, light an incense stick and then do some self Reiki tonight. The world is a beautiful place when you know the inner secrets. Let’s share it with others.

Namaste until next time,

Uma xo

Posted on: February 26th, 2016 No Comments

How Hypnosis Works for You

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HI there, Uma here and today’s blog is on the wonderful modality of hypnosis. Of course this comes as no surprise! I just recently became a certified Hypnotherapist through the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), the leading organization of Hypnotists in the United States.

It was an amazing 100 hour certification course I took through Tim Horn of Hypnoconsult LLC and I am very excited to work with clients in this new and healing career.

Why Hypnosis?

The belief in hypnosis is that the subconscious mind delegates your day to day activity without you even noticing. This is the place of habits and thought patterns. While your conscious mind is focused on your tasks at hand (I have to do laundry, buy groceries etc…), the subconscious mind is running a tele novela in the background.

“God I look fat in these jeans.”¬†

“I am not hungry but I really want to eat that piece of chocolate cake. Ok I can, I deserve it.”

“Look at him over there with that smug look on his face. I don’t know him but I already don’t like him.”

Sounds familiar? We have thoughts and these thoughts that are judgmental and opinionated come from that subconscious realm deep inside of us and most times without us even paying attention to them.

Usually it is not a big deal to be on auto pilot and go through your day with your little chatterbox inside your head, BUT what if that chatterbox was feeding you lines like above? This will affect you from achieving and staying in a place of peace, compassion and understanding.

So hypnosis works to get to the underlying issues of our thoughts. The understanding is if we can change the thought pattern then that will change the belief which changes the attitude that then changes the behavior. Looks a little something like this:

Thoughts –> Beliefs –> Attitudes –> Behavior.

And this is ultimately what we want, behavior modification. If we can develop new, healthy behaviors, all of life opens up to us with ease and joy.

How does Hypnosis work?

Easy! The first step is to contact a certified hypnotist (like myself) and detail what your issues/situation is. The first phone call or meeting is the longest one as we go over what you are currently struggling with as well as what you want to see and achieve after hypnosis.

After we determine your goals and outcome, you sit or lay comfortably and I begin to take you through a series of progressive relaxation techniques to achieve mental and physical relaxation. Once that is achieved we then “talk” with the subconscious mind.

Sessions can be of two types. A client can either choose to not communicate and let me do all the talking for them or it can be interactive where the person communicates while in a deeply relaxed state of focused concentration. This is where the healing begins.

After the work has been done, I emerge you and bring you back to a state of alertness and you feel amazing! Full of energy and vitality and definitely lighter as a result of all the releasing you have done.

Can anyone be hypnotized?

Absolutely. There are only three requirements to be hypnotized:

  1. An IQ over 70. You must be reasonably sensible and able to understand what I am saying to you.
  2. Have an ability to follow suggestions.
  3. Have a willingness to want to change

In the short course of my life as a hypnotist, I have met several people who say to me they cannot be hypnotized. That’s a false statement. The real statement they should be making (and I tell them this and they all agree) is I choose not to be hypnotized because the issue is still serving me in some way OR I did not trust the person I was with and therefore did not allow myself to fully relax.

As a hypnotherapist, I rule out these three requirements in our first talk. I do suggestibility testing to see how you respond to suggestions and I pick your brain a little to see if you really are ready for change and want to overcome this issue you are dealing with. If I feel unsure in any way with the way you respond, I will and do politely refer you to my teacher Tim Horn because I feel he will be able to help you where you are at.

How Many Sessions do I need?

As many as it takes to sink it in. Hypnosis follows the rules of compounding which simply means the first thing is hammered in after repetition of several other things. So for instance for someone who wants to quit smoking, in the first session we place in the subconscious mind positive behavior changes. Thats the first suggestion, we repeat it several times both in that first session and follow up sessions so the first statement becomes a new truth, a new way of life easily and naturally.

Typically my clients (the ones I have worked on so far) have seen amazing results just after the first session so there is the option to book one session with me. However, in understanding human behavior and how the mind works, I feel more comfortable offering my clients a three session package. This way we address several different things and we continually reinforce the positive behavior you want to achieve.

What can hypnosis help me with:

A variety of things! Hypnosis can be used for any limiting, restraining belief holding you back. At this time I am only seeing clients for the following needs:

  1. Stress Release- relieving fear, worry, stress and anxiety either in general or for a specific event
  2. Weight Management- establishing healthy eating and lifestyle goals
  3. Smoking Cessation- to completely quit the habit of cigarette smoking
  4. Sleep Enhancement- to create a better sleep habit and reinforce positive association with sleep

If you need hypnosis for grief/bereavement/emotional upset or pain management I would gladly refer you to Rob Pritchard who also took the hypnosis training with me. Rob is a great listener and communicator in all things psychological and in addition to being a wonderful hypnotist he has a college background in psychology. He lives to help clients on an emotional level!

How much does it cost:

Hypnosis services is an expense. Why? Because the hypnotist understand the issue you are dealing with is not just behavioral, it is mental too. It is human nature to tie in importance to things we have to work for. Case in point, when I started Lotus Wellness from my basement, classes were free and hardly anyone came. Now that I am in a studio and charging, my classes are always full.

It is human nature to associate cost with benefit. If you want to lose weight and you have free options to do it with (go walking outside) you choose instead the paid option (gym memberships) because you need to associate in your mind the benefit of what you are doing as it equates to the success.

Don’t worry though! As much as we understand this, we don’t break your bank about it. Like all my classes and services, there is a cost, and this cost is an indirect contract you make with me that you are willing and ready to commit to seeing this through for your success.

Like I said before you can come in for one session or a package of three. One session will be $200 and it will take about 90 minutes-2 hours. If you do three sessions it will be $300 for the three and each session will last about an hour, with the first session being the longest. The three session package also allows time for me to give you homework and also teach you how to do self hypnosis so you can continue to enjoy the wonderful benefits of hypnosis as a life long change.

So what do you think? Is Hypnosis for you? Of course it is! Call me today and let’s set you up with your appointments. For the three package option, we meet once a week for the next three weeks. As always the sessions will be successful. Why? Because you and I committed to that end result.

Don’t delay, call today and let’s get you out of your mind and back into life!

Love and light and until next time,

xo Uma

Work (703) 369-6762

Cell (540) 359-5090

Email: uma@lotuswellnesscenter.net

Posted on: February 16th, 2016 No Comments

What is Access Bars ¬ģ?

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HI there! Uma here and if you have been following me on social media recently you would have seen an upsurge of posts on Access Bars.

What is the Bars you ask? Only the most AMAZING modality I have experienced to date! I fell so in love with this modality that I not only took the certification course to become a practitioner but I also went all the way to become a Facilitator so I can assist other people in incorporating the Bars into their lives.

Access Bars is one part of the larger modality called Access Consciousness. Before you get to know the Bars, you need to know about Access Consciousness first. It is a movement really focused on creating a world of consciousness and oneness. Taken from the Access Consciousness website, (www.accessconsciousness.com),

It is our target to get you to the point where you receive from Access the awareness of everything, with no judgment of anything. If you have no judgment of anything, then you get to look at everything for what it is, not for what you want it to be, not for what it ought to be, but just for what it is.

Consciousness is the ability to be present in your life in every moment, without judgment of you or anyone else. It is the ability to receive everything, reject nothing, and create everything you desire in life – greater than what you currently have, and more than what you can imagine.

The target of Access is to help get you to the point where you are conscious enough to create change within you. Access offers tools and processes that make it possible to change everything that is not working in your life. Once you become more conscious, it will be easier for you to thrive in the face of the shifts that are occurring everywhere on the planet right now.”

Access is a different point of view about life. It’s about seeing all the things that you always knew should be possible but didn’t know how to receive, with no judgment about the choices made in the past or future. Access gives people real life tools to use which can help them get to where they would like to be.

The Bars is what can be said to be the core or foundation of Access. They are 32 bars of energy that run through and around a person’s head that connects to different aspects in life. The Bars store the electromagnetic component of all thoughts, ideas, attitudes, beliefs and decisions that you have ever had about anything.

For example, there is a bar for Control. Any thought you have ever had about control that you considered important, the energy of that thought is stored in the bar Control. There are bars for healing, money, creativity, body; 32 different ones in all. Touch one bar and you begin to clear away the energy locked up in that area of your life.

So what happens in a session? My client would come in and get on my table fully clothed. There is no music (interferes with the removal of stored energy) and if clients are wearing watches, I ask them to remove them (the Bars can affect your timepieces!). And that’s it! My clients lay comfortably on the table and chat with me as I run their bars. Most talk for half the session and begin to feel very sleepy midway through and they take a nap. They awake by the end, feeling refreshed, rejuvenated and even looking younger! Man, how easy is that? ūüôā

How do you feel after a session? Worst case scenario you feel like you had an incredible massage, the best case scenario? Your life changes for the better!

I love seeing the changes in my clients when I run their Bars consistently. I have a retired female client who comes in once a week for her Bars to be run and she always leaves feeling younger, with more energy and joy!

So don’t wait or learn about it, come experience a session for yourself! At my studio, we (Myself, Rob and Diane) charge $120/session and your first session can run anywhere from 60minutes-90minutes. As a special first time offer for you, I would love to offer this session at HALF OFF! Yup, you heard me! Book with me in the month of February and you can get your Access Bars session for only $60! How does it get any better than this?

Email me at uma@lotuswellnesscenter.net to make your appointment now and mention code: BLOGBARS for your discount. I look forward to running your bars!

 

Until next time,

Love and light,

Uma

Posted on: February 8th, 2016 No Comments

Let My Pain Be…

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Hi there, Uma here and man am I ready to write this post! From my own personal experience and recently talking to several people in the past few weeks i have been incited. And of course, what better way to deal with it than blog about it? (blush)

So here’s the thing, I am going to make a statement right now and it may have you in agreement with me (keep reading) or not (no shame, abandon post now) but it has to be said because I am really tired of the world’s insensitivity to people that are hurting. I say world because I am not calling anyone out in my personal life (you know who you are) and for people I have been talking to, it runs the gamut from family to lovers to friends to coworkers. It is just not ok.

Listen….we all have something we are dealing with. If you are walking around with not a care in the world, no luggage, no pain and no suffering, really move on, this is not the post for you.

This post is for the people I KNOW are suffering and doing so silently because they are afraid to speak up or share because they are tired of the judgments and criticism. I am choosing to be the voice of these people today. So here…we….go….

  1. My pain is my pain and try as you might, you will never know my pain

I met a woman at my studio who came in to talk about some matter in her life with her relationships. However, the more we talked and the deeper down we went, we touched on the fact that she was molested as a child. I held space for her as she talked and talked and talked about it until she couldn’t talk anymore. I was intently listening and very involved emotionally as I felt for her but at the very end, she said something to me that made the hair raise up on the back of my neck. She said, “Thank you Uma for listening. I guess that’s all I really wanted, to be heard and not be judged.” I told her that was preposterous, who can judge her in this situation? To which she replied, “My ______ (family member) told me to get over it because there was no penetration, only touch.” Shock.

This is the world we live in. A world where we are so insensitive that we allow crap to come out our mouths and hurl it at other people. Now you see why I am incited? Oh but wait, there’s more stories like this to come.

Here’s the thing folks. You cannot RATIONALIZE someone else’s pain. How do you even begin to justify that?! When you try to rationalize something, you are consciously analyzing the thing you are rationalizing. You are completely out of the field of emotions, where the pain is stemming from.

The next time you are blessed to be in the presence of someone hurting (I say blessed because clearly they trust you enough to share their pain with you) do one of two things and ONLY these two things:

  • Have compassion. Listen intently with your heart, maintain eye contact and relax the face. Allow yourself to listen to what they are saying and when you do say something, do it to bring forth encouraging words and not to respond. Most people who are hurting are not looking to you for advice but some form of comfort if even only temporarily from their discomfort. You would be amazed how little is required from you to do so much for someone who is hurting. All you really have to do is sit quietly, listen and lend an ear. Most times when you do this, people will tell you they feel amazing after. They feel lighter and really they are because energetically they have chipped away at the block of pain and they can feel it.
  • If you are unable to provide space for someone because you are busy, tired, selfish or egotistical then do the following: Have compassion. Say something gently to let them know that you understand this is a source of hurt to them and you are unable to hold space for them at this time or forever, whichever your cold heart desires. It could look like this: “I am so sorry to hear this is affecting you. I can hear the pain in your voice, this must be something very deep for you and I am so sorry to see you in this amount of pain. I need to be honest with you, because I love you and respect you, I don’t think I am the right person for you to talk to about this. For my own personal reasons (I am dead on the inside) I cannot provide a safe and warm place for you to open up and share and help in your grief. I hope you understand and can find someone to share this with because it seems like you have to talk about it and not keep it in.”

2. I am not hearing YOUR advice about MY pain if your advice includes YOU more than I

Sigh. So, we are creatures of habit and usually our habits are shown in our speech. You can tell a lot about a person from their speech and how many selfies they take. A couple of months ago I met a woman at one of my workshops at my studio. She came with a friend and it was a workshop on “Letting Go”. We talked about relationships and how all relationships had a natural end. Most times, people tend to stay longer than they are supposed to and they then experience suffering as a result as the relationship no longer holds value for either participants. This woman was in awe. Clearly the workshop was hitting home and I noticed it in her eyes but I didn’t want to draw attention to her so I kept talking and made sure to keep my eyes roaming freely around the room. Finally she spoke up to say what I suspected, this talk was exactly what she needed because she was in an on again and off again relationship with someone and she is now seeing it clearly for the first time. Well, no sooner had she said that when her friend started jumping up and making a real show of herself. “Omg I have told you many times, over and over the SAME thing Uma is saying!” As the conversation continued between me and the woman in front of the class (I had her consent to use her personal situation as an example), her friend would chime in every time I said something that resonated with the woman. “Yep, I said the same thing.” “Yep I said that too.” And on and on this went until she finally got the woman to admit out loud to everyone that she was right and she had said the same things to her over the years.

Folks, I know you need validation. Heck, we all need it but you getting validation at another’s expense is not pretty. It is actually downright ugly. If you are the friend who gives people advice and they never take it‚Ķ..you need to take a step back and realize it is one of two things:

  • Either you are not giving sound advice and people realize that and just don’t pay attention

 

  • OR you give GREAT advice but they cannot use it because it usually comes attached to some form of validation for you. My pain is your victory and that is not ok. I know I am rubbing a lot of egos the wrong way right now but hear me out, this can be very helpful to you and people in your life. How to tell if you are doing this? Easy!

– If you give advice to people and they don’t follow it and what you said will happen, happens‚Ķ.you usually follow that up with a big ole serving of “I TOLD YOU SO”

– You give advice to people and they decide to follow you on it and then suffer the consequences of you holding it over them for the rest of their life. It sounds something similar to this “You should be THANKFUL for me because of ALL I DO FOR YOU”

Ok there is no judgment here, Lord knows I have used these techniques too so if you are guilty of these behaviors, just admit it and make amends within yourself to be better about being a better person to your loved ones. What is the appropriate way to give advice? I have no clear cut answer for you, what I can share with you is what works for me with my clients that allow them to take my advice:

  • When I hear a person’s dilemma, I verbally mirror back to them what I am hearing. Sometimes people don’t understand just how crazy they sound until it is mirrored back to them. “So what I am hearing is that you are frustrated waiting by the phone for him because the relationship is on his schedule when he is not with his wife?” Ahhhh, revelations. BUT if you do this, please do it with an honest questioning voice and not one dripping with sarcasm. Hold that for the comedy club.
  • I like to put the power in the person’s hands. Why would someone feel motivated to make a change when it is advice from me? It is much better for me to make a change when I made the decision by myself. So in my sessions, my role is less of an authoritarian figure and more of a sounding board to get them where they need to be. I can make suggestions, but I do so lightly and put it back in their court. Something I would say sounds like, “Ok so these are the two decisions you are faced with. I am not telling you which to choose and in fact I am not even telling you to choose. What I am saying is to process. Process where you are at right now and when the time is right, you will make the decision that is right for you.”
  • Have empathy. I like to let clients know I understand where they are at and empathize with them. That sounds like this, “I know you have to make a decision between the two‚Ķand you know what? Take as much time as you need because if I were in your shoes, that would be a difficult situation for me too. I can see and understand now why this is painful for you and how much you have suffered as a result. I know though that when you make a decision, it will put you in a much better place than where you are right now.”

 

I can go on and on about respecting other people’s pain and suffering but we will stop here now. I feel like I have gotten it off my chest lol, I do feel lighter. My hope is simple. Read this and practice it. If you know of someone in your life right now who is hurting, make a commitment to be there for them as much as you can. I say that last part because there are a few people out there who do like staying miserable, but that is a topic for another time.

If you like this blog post and would like to hear more about pain, suffering and unrequited love or maybe ask me personally your own questions into your own situation, come to my event on Sunday February 7th at the Intuitive Wellness Center in Burke. It is called “Love Redefined: Understanding Today’s Relationships”. For more information and to RSVP, please visit:¬†¬†http://www.meetup.com/thelotusandthelight/events/227974559/

Until next time, have a Namaste and stay beautiful inside and out

Love and light,

Uma xo

 

 

 

 

 

Posted on: January 11th, 2016 No Comments

Top 5 New Year Resolutions You Can Make

NEW-YEAR-2016

It is 9.30pm on January 1st as I write this and I am well aware it is a little improper for me to be wishing you a happy new year but nevertheless I do.

I love the energy of a new year’s day. It is so full of hope and wishes, new intentions and resolve for us to be bigger, better, brighter than we were the year before.

Yes most times we break those new year resolutions but for the most part, we are an optimistic species because new year resolutions are still a “thing” despite many seeing it as a fad, it has withheld the test of time.

There are a couple of things I do at the end of one year and the beginning of the next and you know, I never change it or question it because every year has been a good year, with lots of growth and understanding so in my mind, why fix it when it’s not broken?

Let’s see, the week leading up to New Year’s day, I tend to keep the house in order and clean up or throw out things no longer of use. The day of New Year’s Eve, I make sure all the laundry is done and the trash is taken out. This is telling of my Guyanese background as it was considered tradition to enter the new year with a clean home.

Another cultural observation of New Year’s Day is to make black eye peas and leave it on the stove. Most of my family and friends make cook up rice which include black eye peas in the recipe but I prefer to just cook up some black eye peas on the stove and leave it out. The understanding is that black eye peas invite prosperity and abundance to your home, so you should meet the new year with some on your stove. Hey! This is the stuff old wives tales are made of, so somewhere along the line, it must have worked and hence carried forward generation after generation!

Another New Year’s tradition for me is to make a vision board. I LOVE doing this because I always go into it with my expectations of what I want and by the time I am done, Spirit has another plan for me. I love my board for 2016 because it involves a lot more introspection, meditation and introverted behavior, which is my nature (I know, I know I can be the life of the party but deep down, I really am an introvert). I also inspired Rob to do one of his own and he is excited to see what Spirit has in store for him (big hint-we match up perfectly in love and in life).

I have also completed my annual reading where I pull 14 cards to tell the energy and events of each month (if you would like me to do yours, click here for more info). It is such an affirmation when your reading lines up with your vision board which lines up with your energy. It is all coming together and I am excited to see it play out this year!

Finally I make a resolutions list. Yes I do! I know many people are against making new year resolutions but I will leave them with this thought. How do you approach a project? Do you go into it letting the chips fall where they may or do you have an outline or plan of action? Of course having a plan makes you accomplish that project quickly and with the best results. If you have a plan to become a millionaire in this lifetime, will you wait to win the lottery or will you go about saving a little each year and investing your money to make it happen? I rest my case.

If you have goals and dreams to accomplish, don’t wait! Start on them now and make your resolutions to either accomplish them this year or at least make some headway. For example, I plan to publish my second book, “Love Redefined” and it has twelve chapters. I plan to write a chapter a month and finish it by December to promote and publish next year. Challenge accepted.

I will admit I do not accomplish all my goals (I am Capricorn-a high achiever if you ever knew one!) but I do get a lot of satisfaction with the ones I do accomplish because it shows me, physical proof that I did something with my life and the year was not wasted. How many times have you heard people say the time flew by and they don’t know what they did with their year? Not me! I can tell you with a straight face I have accomplished a 10 day fast with no foods, global volunteered in Brazil, read 12 books and grew my business exponentially in 2015. I lived!

So if you are serious about your goals and want to start with new year resolutions good for you! You are on the right track and I can help with some tips by giving you the top 5 resolutions everyone should make every year. Last year in 2015 I completed 14 out of 17 goals, yah me! This year I upped the ante by making 30 resolutions. Ooohhh, I can’t wait to make them happen! Of those 30, there are 5 that are repeated every year and this should be part of your resolutions as well:

1) New Year’s Resolution #1- Address a Fear¬†

Every year I address one of my fears (yes I am admitting I am human and have fears) by including it as one of my resolutions. Last year in 2015 I had not so much a fear but uncertainty that I can go long periods of time without food. So I took part in the Master Cleanse fast which meant 10 days of no food and only drinking a lemonade mixture to keep you going. It was brutal but it was worth it because the empowering feeling I had after was amazing.

When you set out to conquer a fear and you do it, you feel unstoppable and confident that you can tackle anything. You don’t have to go in with a large resolution like mine, start small. List your fears or uncertainties and pick one that you can do but just avoid doing because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Start with say a bikini wax or sky diving if you want! Whatever it is, large or small, it will give you a sense of empowerment and that will trickle into every part of your life.

2) New Year’s Resolution #2-Increase your Savings Account¬†

If you haven’t already created a savings account, now is the time to. If you don’t believe in the banking system, then buy a safe and save at home. Bottom line, we all need to have a stash put aside for a rainy day. You don’t know what life can bring so saving money for that rainy day will bring you peace of mind now and when it happens.

The goal is to have six month’s worth of finances safely tucked away so if you are unable to work, you can pay your bills and continue living for the next six months while you figure out what you need to do. You don’t have to push yourself and stress yourself out, move at your pace! If you need to have $12,000 in savings ($2,000/month) give yourself three years to accomplish that goal. This way if you have a new year’s resolution to save $4,000 this year it works out to putting aside $300 a month. Of course you can try to accomplish it in one year, but remember resolutions are not meant to stress you out, it is meant to keep you on track with your goals and hold you accountable. Take as long as you need to reach it.

3) New Year’s Resolution #3- Do Something Healthy¬†

Let’s not expect miracles here! As much as I would love to lose 50 pounds, the most I am realistically expecting to take off this year and keep off is 10. The understanding is that you want to live healthy so as you age and get older, you can live fitfully and easily in your body with minimum aches, pains and medical conditions.

Weight loss as Oprah has identified is a tricky event and is less about physical action than it is about mental attitude. If you can see your weight loss journey as a pyramid, it will stand tall and looming over you….and you know what? It should. It has taken you a lot of years to put this weight on, it will not disappear overnight. Instead of focusing on the weight, focus on increasing healthy behavior. Try to incorporate more wellness activities into your life such as walking, yoga or dance. Try to tackle the unhealthy food habits and love of junk food and bit by bit, when you do these things, you start to chip away at that pyramid from the base. Eventually over time it will crumble and you will be free from the dieting yo-yo regimen that has been your life.

My goals this year include restarting my yoga routine and choosing healthier snacks. I am no longer going to eliminate snacking from my diet but make better choices. Instead of reaching for a piece of cake, I will have a yogurt and granola mix instead. If I can keep choosing healthier, it nourished my body and helps me keep the weight off as well.

4) New Year’s Resolutions #4-Include the Family¬†

If you have kids or pets, it is important you also include a resolution to do something for them that they cannot do for themselves. Being the owner of a wellness center, I teach and provide services of a metaphysical nature. As a result, my children grew up practicing yoga in their bedrooms, meditation and other things. This year I plan to complete both of their Reiki trainings (Nathan is level II and Joshua is level I) and increase their daily meditation times.

When you put emphasis on someone else and make it part of your resolutions list, it will come about because it is part of the plan. Listen, we are all good parents and we all try our best to do right by our kids (and pets!) but sometimes we fall short. We fall short because we are tired, busy or have other things to do. Its ok! It happens to all of us, including the super moms and super dads out there. By putting your loved ones on the resolutions list, you are committing to spending quality time with them and not overlooking them. You will feel great about it as they will too.

5) New Year’s Resolutions #5-Grow Yourself¬†

And finally one of the resolutions you must make every year is a commitment to you. We are all students of life and if we do not keep learning, we will stop growing. Stop growing in spirit, in mind and in evolution. Every year I sign up for continuing education classes for my massage therapy license and other licenses I need CEUS for but I also enroll in personal enrichment courses or read books to grow myself as well.

Spiritual enrichment doesn’t need to be about studying alone either. You can take up a new hobby, learn a new dance or recipe or do something you normally won’t do. The idea is to grow your knowledge base and allow expansion in. The more you learn, the more you grow and you become a more open minded person. As we know especially now, the world needs more of that, open minded people.

So in closing dear reader, my wish for you is simple. Live 2016 the best way you can and don’t look back. Make this year fabulous and live it large! I have faith you will do it better than years past and will have much to show for it at the end of the year.

Until next time,

Love and light,

Uma

Posted on: January 2nd, 2016 No Comments

Tulsi-The Elixir of Life

Tulsi

Hi Y’all!

So I am writing to you from Beautiful Guyana, my home country where I have been for the past few days. I thought it only fitting to post something relating to my history as I gave out to the palm trees and mango trees in my yard.

Being Guyanese opens me up to a world of rich culture and diversity. We ARE the land of six races (African, Indian, Chinese, Portuguese, European and of course our native people, the Amerindians) and so I have learned a lot about life from just living in Guyana. One of the most important things I learned growing up is how to heal naturally.

We didn’t depend on outside medicine or hospitals for many of our ailments, instead a family member or someone who knows someone (usually a bush doctor) would make up a quick remedy to help us out. As expected, it worked and is why it is still practiced to this day.

I want to talk about the Tulsi plant in this post because it is a highly revered plant to East Indians near and far. It is called Tulsi or Tulasi (Ocimumtenuiflorum) but is most commonly known in North America as Holy Basil. According to Hindu belief it is a sacred plant as it has been used for thousand of years in India to treat many ailments.

There exists many legends and folklore about Tulsi but my favorite (and probably because it is twisted) is that Tulsi was the incarnation of a princess who fell in love with Lord Krishna and so had a curse laid on her by his consort Radha.

The Tulsi plant is grown in or near almost every orthodox Hindu house. A person who waters and cares for the Tulsi daily is believed to have gain moksha (salvation) and divine blessings. Traditionally the daily worship and care of the plant is the responsibility of the women in the household as the plant is usually seen as a symbol of ideal wifehood and motherhood. Devotees would pray to the plant and offer chants as a method of worship.

Outside of religion and worship, the Tulsi plant is also used in Ayurveda for its divine healing properties. It has been mentioned in the ancient Ayurvedic text “Charak Samhita” and believed to promote longevity. Some treatments that Tulsi is used for is as follows:

  1. Headaches- leaves are pounded and mixed with sandalwood paste and applied to forehead for relief from heat, headaches and to provide a general coolness to the body.
  2. Teeth- The leaves can be powdered and used to brush teeth or mixed with mustard oil to make a toothpaste. This paste is said to be used to massage gums and provide clean breath.
  3. Insect Bites-A paste of fresh roots is made and said to be effective in case of bites of insects and leeches.
  4. Stress- Tulsi leaves are regarded as anti-stress agents and people would chew leaves as a preventative to stress.
  5. Respiratory Disorder- A decoction of the leaves, honey and ginger is an effective remedy for bronchitis, asthma, influenza, cough and cold.

I hope you enjoyed reading about the majestic Tulsi plant and hey even if you are not into gardening or the like, it seems like having a Tulsi plant in the home is a fortunate thing. I don’t know about you, but after being home and remembering all the home remedies and folklore, I am definitely looking to bringing a Tulsi plant home when I get back.

Until later, love and light

Uma xo

Posted on: September 26th, 2015 No Comments