After I wrote my last piece about my experience connecting with my higher self, I was talking to my girls, and a damn good question came up. Who cares? If I were someone else reading this, I for sure would be asking, “Why the hell does that even matter? Lindsey, for real, what the actual hell are you even talking about?”
You know what? Excellent question. I don’t know if it’ll help y’all if I explain my thought process, but here we go. Put your helmets on, kids. Tin foil hats also apply here. Or bananas, apparently.
So, why should we even bother to connect to our higher selves? Look at it this way: what if you had access to future you with a ton of knowledge and experience to provide you with guidance through your journey? Not only that, but to bring you back to home base and keep you locked within yourself? To help you keep true to yourself as you explore new adventures, people, places, things. Additionally, if you’re an Empath like myself, this means you are literally a sponge, and it is incredibly easy to be influenced by your environment. Coming back to your home base can always help you keep yourself aligned with what is for your best and highest good.
Coming out of a difficult situation, I will tell you that I was super reliant on my friends for support. However, the key there is support. They could not do the work for me; I had to do my own. In the end, as difficult as the decisions I had to make were, I was the only one that could make them, and it took a lot of work to get to the point to where I felt brave enough to make those decisions. Think about it-you may have a situation where you have all of the answers rooted in your being-but until you are ready to acknowledge said answers…they frankly don’t mean dick. This is where the hard work comes in. Here is where you get to be your own hero, and put yourself first. Is it hard? YES. Is it the most liberating feeling in the world? Also yes.
As we continue along our journeys, learn new things, meet new people, the single most connection that needs to be constantly nurtured is the one with ourselves. After all, it is only you that knows your true desires. It is only you that can align yourself with things, experiences, and people that are for your best and highest good. It is only you that can do the hard work that is required to travel along the path that is meant to bring you nothing but the best. You are responsible for yourself, therefore, you should always nurture yourself first. Listen to yourself first.
Love yourself first, because that’s what badasses do.
Have you ever been in a situation that you felt like you lost yourself, and don’t know how to make your way back? You know that person is just hanging around waiting for you to invite them back in..but how do you do it?
I recently had this conversation with myself. As I transition to a completely new phase, right now is *the* time I need that higher self to come in and tell me to get my shit together. When we love someone, but have to let them go, we discover a lot about ourselves. Or perhaps these were things we already knew, but weren’t ready to admit. This is a time for learning and rediscovering yourself-to realize that perhaps some choices you made weren’t serving your best and highest good. Now is the time to make yourself a priority, and be ok with it. Not only just ok, but damn excited to welcome you back into your life again.
Loving someone isn’t giving up pieces of you to try to make that person happy, only to discover you’re rushing to find other pieces to fill in the void that is left. Loving someone isn’t the feeling of being able to predict the next explosion like clockwork. Loving someone isn’t finding happy moments fewer and farther between. Most of all, loving someone is not losing yourself in the process. I will admit, this is my current lesson. When I dulled myself down so much, I became unrecognizable to not only those around me, but most of all to myself. Looking in the mirror and wondering, ” WHO even are you? What the fuck happened? Can you make it back?” The constant state of heaviness and anxiety that results from wandering around questioning your whole purpose, and what would happen next. I decided it was time to put myself first, because I missed ME, and I wanted her to come back. This came with the recognition that she did not fit in my current situation. For the first time, I chose me. I put me first, and this meant that I had to let go of a situation that was no longer in alignment with me.
There were a few days that were particularly heavy and filled with passive aggressive comments and arguments. I was so tired, so I asked the Universe to intervene on my behalf. Standing outside, I looked up at the heavens, and said, “Please. I am asking you to intervene on my behalf. If I am supposed to stay where I am now, show me that. I do not have the strength to make this move on my own, so I am asking you to intervene on my behalf.” Now you may be saying, “Well, Lindsey..that’s a bit dramatic…and really, you had to go outside to talk to the Universe?” I will answer that by saying, something big and dramatic was needed to spark the change that was coming for me, so go big or go home. Also, I was outside because my dog had to pee. You can talk to the Universe from wherever you are, even while your dog pees.
After I went back inside, this is where the drama came in. A huge (and unrelated to the previous) fight ensued, and he was gone and moved out within 2 hours. TWO HOURS. Now if that isn’t a quick response time, I don’t know what is. Though my heart hurt, I knew this was the right thing for me, and for him. I want him to be able to find peace and happiness as well. So now what? This is where the work comes in, and holy shit, is it a lot of work. My first exercise was to write out a list of things I felt I was worthy of, and then to connect to my higher self and do it again. LAWD JESUS, is my higher self chatty! To pull my scattered pieces back in was so amazing and LIGHT, I felt me reconnecting with my true self right away. As I continue to work and heal, I feel more and more like my true self every day. New doors are opening for me, and most importantly, I feel like I have more value to my own self.
“Anything you want, really. You are worthy of trusting yourself and erasing self doubt. You shine here, and you need not dull yourself down any longer. You are safe. It is time for you to step back into being who the Universe knows you are-and who you know you are, too. You are worthy of stepping out without worry of judgment or harsh reaction. You have done your work, and now it is time to be at ease. Know everything you have ever dreamed of is coming to you, because you deserve it. You deserve it. You are worthy of every single beautiful experience you have ever longed for. The time has come to give yourself credit for you, and know you are worthy of this life and all the happiness and love it brings to you. Congratulations-you did it! You are loved-so very much. Know I have you-you are safe. Go forth and be every bit of light and love that you know you are.”
Words from my higher self. I saved me. I picked myself up. My heart chakra is on fire, and it is literally leading me around this life right now, and couldn’t have imagined a greater gift.
** If you are in the DMV area, Lindsey will be sharing methods to connect to your higher self on a special Valentine’s Day class. Co-hosted with her astrological twin Niki (ha!), we will be working on methods to help you connect to your higher self, increase your vibration, and bring you into alignment with things that serve your best and highest good. For more information, check our meetup.
Sometimes you just jump off the proverbial cliff and hope to God that you grow wings along the way. Along this beautiful journey called life we all have choices that can shape our life. We all have the ability to choose the path laid out for us. Will you choose to do something like open your heart up to someone after it’s been broken, choose to leave that career that you no longer enjoy or choose to be happy?
Now I know you’re thinking wait did she just say I have a choice to be happy. Yes, my friend being happy is your choice. You can choose how you see the situation, do you see it through the eyes of fear, depression and negativity or do you see it through faith, love and positivity.
As Sonia Sumar once told me “you can’t have both, faith and fear, you can only have one”. It can it be scary to think that you have all the power and the ability to choose the path you are on in life. When you are afraid you will always choose the easy way, the path that is the least scary. It’s easy to stay in a dead end relationship, stay closed off or stay in that job that is making you miserable because there is safety there but when you take that leap and have faith the most beautiful things come to you. Trust that little voice inside of you that says do it, I’ve got you, everything will be okay.
Recently, I was reminded that our life experiences can shape how we choose and what we fear. Sometimes it can prevent us from having faith because we’ve tried so many times in the past to have something and it doesn’t work out. You’ve carried years of hurt, fear, anger and resentment around with you and it has shaped how you see situations. It can prevent you from opening up, telling someone you care, forgiving the past hurts, releasing the old, starting a new relationship or rekindling an old flame. Don’t let your past have control of your today or your future.
Do not let fear control your life and your decisions. Unpack your luggage with your person, leave that relationship that’s draining you, find your tribe, quit the job, open that business and take that leap of faith. Know that everything always works out even in the darkest of days! You are a Divine being and God is always with you, let your light be your guide out of the dark!
For a new beginning to happen there must be an ending. So, as I look at this New Year and the New Me that has emerged I feel the need to go back to the beginning of me for you to truly understand my journey, and with doing that I hope you find comfort in ‘my pain’ because you see some of your life in mine. Because from pain and chaos comes the greatest change. Some of us just go through more pain than others.
2017 ended the journey to me … 2018 is the beginning of the authentic me!
58 years .. it took me 58 years to finally come to terms with EVERYthing!! Some might say good grief or seriously Rae, WTH!!?? But every bad decision, wrong turn, failed relationship, another career change, financial ruin, life falling apart; etc, has lead me to ME. And for that I am forever grateful. I am grateful for ALL those that have been there throughout the good the bad and the ugly, whether you remained solid with me or dropped off along the way. Thank YOU!
We all have a back story. A friend of mine says, those are just the facts or your life, if you aren’t happy with it then re-write your story. Here’s my story .. I come from humble beginnings and at a very early age I knew I was different from my family. I, honestly, thought I must’ve been switched at birth and would dream of the day my ‘real’ family would come for me. I remember when I finally told my mom this; her reply was ‘so did I at times’. Please don’t get me wrong here as there is absolutely nothing wrong with my family, I just wanted more .. I wanted to experience the world .. I wanted acclaim .. I wanted status .. I wanted to be KNOWN!
By my mid-30s I felt I had reached my ‘goal’. I had arrived!! Great career, dotting husband, 2 handsome intelligent boys, beautifully decorated home, cleaning service, exotic vacations, designer clothes, monthly massages manicure/pedicures, perfectly coiffed. I had arrived! Yet I found myself still searching. Why? Why wasn’t I happy?
Because I wasn’t living my life’s purpose and worse still I had NO idea how to change my path.
Then my world crumbled around me. Due to a devastating divorce (financially, emotionally and spiritually) along with trying to raise my 2 young boys by myself, I came to realize I had ‘lost’ myself. I now know I was always lost but was able to emote a sense of self-assuredness and control, externally. I fooled everybody, myself included because internally, I was a mess! I continued to have this sense of foreboding that I was just drifting in this thing called life. Despite the fact I was SURE I had direction and a path to follow I would get bored and anxious with my life. I kept switching from career to career .. unsatisfied with serious doubts as to whether I had ever made the right decision or done the right thing. Then I reached rock bottom. But the beauty of being at the bottom is the only direction you can go is UP.
Through the help, guidance and assistance of Lotus Wellness Center and Empowered Women International and a myriad of great friends supporting me as I struggled I started rebuilding my spirit and soul and that’s when I discovered my purpose and passion, to give back and assist others in finding their true authentic self. I truly believe I have a voice and a message that will help, guide, inspire and motivate other women (and men too!) to stay true to themselves while navigating the roadblocks life throws at us. And trust me these roadblocks and self-discovery can be extremely painful. I will tell here that there was many many times I wanted to give up, quit trying, and just wallow in my self-deprecating thoughts. Better the devil you know than the one you don’t, right??
I’ve heard that we, on this planet, are the only ones that deal with time. We live for the next day, year. 24 hours makes a day, 30 days a month, and so on .. we monitor our lives based on this concept. By the time you graduate High School, actually while you are a Junior, you should have already figured out what you want to do with the rest of your 50+ years. At 15 or 16 we should have a PLAN!! Really??!! And by 30 .. you should have your life figured out, living the dream or consider yourself a failure!!
Here’s my re-write: I am learning to let the concept of time go and stop questioning the Divine Universe’s timeline for me. Letting go and acceptance is a journey, a journey that continues each and every day. I have always believed in the holistic approach but it wasn’t until I began the journey of self-discovery to find myself, by first eliminating the negative energy around me and then by surrounding myself with women whose sole interest was to encourage, uplift, educate and empower did I realize who I really was.
One of my favorite quotes is by Lily Tomlin: “I always wanted to be someone, I just didn’t know who”. I felt that statement in the depths of my soul!! Now when I think of that quote it brings me such joy—why you ask, because I have finally figured out who .. ME!I encourage each of you to join me on the road to self-discovery, to begin your re-write and to learn and embrace what you were meant to achieve and learn in this lifetime. We all start with that 1st step; the key is to keep walking! The road can be quite treacherous but the rewards are more than worth it!
The journey continues …
I look forward to being a part of your journey.
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2017 .. it’s over!! And it was a DOOZY for so many of my friends and acquaintances. For me it was one of the easier years. Don’t get me wrong, there were major challenges, major changes and major growth but because of the self-work I have been doing (years of it..lol) I was able to handle it better than years prior. I can not go any farther without saying a very special thank you to those that went through it with me and are STILL by my side–I am grateful, humbled and in awe of each of you!! Truly not sure I could’ve made it without your support and love!
2018 .. If you are into numerology you will know this is an 11 Universal Year. (If you are not and want to know more please let me know–I LOVE numerology!!) When I realized this it hit me .. That is my Life Path 11/2. OMG this is MY year! With that knowledge I (easily) made the decision to forge my path, purpose and passion full-time. In the past this would have been extremely daunting, nerve wracking, with a big oh dose of WTH am I thinking!! Even as I sit here and write this I still feel none of those feelings. The knowledge that I AM worthy of the life I desire, I AM capable of achieving it, I DO have the knowledge though my experiences to impart on others, I CAN be helpful to those in need of guidance, I CAN and WILL be successful, I FOLLOW my gut instincts because I DO believe in my intuitive abilities. We ALL deserve the life you envision for yourself and YOU CAN achieve it.
In my self-work I have been studying many individuals in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. The ones I gravitate towards are Wayne Dyer, Don Miguel Ruiz, Sr and Jr, Don Jose Ruiz, Susan Jeffers, the teachings of Abraham Hicks and many more. Some of the things I have gleaned from these individuals were life-changing; feel the fear and do it anyway; stay in your vortex, you can’t solve the problem with the same mind that created it; you can only control to the tip of your finger; live authentically; don’t take things personal; your opinion of ME is none of MY business; give up your personal history and don’t die with the music still in you. These are just a few thoughts, or mantras, that I now live by; but, more importantly I have learned to embrace silence.
This weekend I attended a New Year—New You 2-day Workshop presented by Uma Alexandra Beepat, of Lotus Wellness Center, and Rob Pritchard, of The Healing Frequency. Among the many things we went over the one that resonated the most was the part about Fear. We were sitting in a circle and Uma asked us what fear was holding us back. I was at the end of the circle and as each participant talked about their individual fear(s) I felt a connection with each but had a serious revelation—I no longer felt the fear of them. Now, let me be completely honest here, just because I no longer felt the fear does NOT mean I no longer feel fearful. I do!! But what I realized was I no longer felt the crippling effect of fear.
This was a MAJOR breakthrough for me because I have constantly lived in fear; fear of the unknown, fear of what people thought of me, my decisions, the direction I truly wanted to go, fear that no one would accept me AS ME, and fear that I am unlovable. And that is just a few that come to mind!! How did these fears abate you might ask .. well as I mentioned above—YEARS of self-work. Let me tell you right here and right now …. IT WAS EXCRUCIATINGLY PAINFUL! The driving force was to just get through it! And as I sit on the other side of through I can look back with clear eyes and see the craziness of it all! We all think we are protecting ourselves by staying in our ‘comfort zones’ or by ignoring the problem/situation or swallowing the pain, hurt, guilt, shame, regret—you name it. But in truth, I never understood how confining my comfort zone was until I finally stepped out of it.
I now stand in my POWER with the knowledge that this life is for the taking .. it is mine .. it is yours .. it is ALL of OURS to take. The Universe is there to deliver to each of us our desires, we just have to realize, accept and step into it. There is no competition – I am not taking from you and you are not taking from me!
SO STEP INTO YOUR POWER!!
Feel the Fear and DO it anyway!!
Seriously, what do you have to lose?
2018 brings with it massive change and I welcome it with the excitement of a child .. What else is possible??
As I embark on this chapter of my life I wanted to let you know exactly what I will be doing and it is my desire that should you need guidance, assistance, counsel you will seek me out. I have a tribe that is also available to and for you and I look forward to connecting with you, or connecting you with my Tribe, so you too can start your journey to YOU!
The journey continues …
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Another year coming to an end. Better yet, a brand new year is about to begin. For some, that means going back to the gym (I should just go ahead and pencil myself in on that list). For others, perhaps other personal goals are being set now with hopes they last about a week into the new year.
For me, it’s about moving forward. I’ve overcome some pretty tough obstacles this year, and I’ve learned from all of them. So rather than looking at this last year as difficult, I choose to highlight the silver linings. For example:
-Perhaps it is not a no, but just a not yet.
-Yes, I can survive working for a sociopath, and it lead to my finding a great job near my home. With great people!
-Yes, I can find a way to laugh at boggling situations and circumstances.
-Yes, I can learn to be my own self and uphold my own boundaries, even if the person who pushes those boundaries is one dearest in my heart.
-Yes, I can teach in the community about ways to live your best life.
-Yes, I can use my education in energy healing to do just that; heal people.
-Yes, I can write a collaborative piece in a book about a trauma that lead to the darkest period of my life.
-Yes, I can learn to slow down a bit and take some time for myself.
-Yes, I can start my own business AND be on the board in the leading wellness center in my area!
-Yes, I can actually make decisions based on things that are good for me, rather than compromising because of fear that I may disappoint someone.
And yes, I can keep going. Nevertheless, I persist. Looking back at that small list, I see a huge amount of growth. All of that growth sparked from lessons, experiences, and decisions. So yes, while I will keep myself penciled in for the gym, I strive to continue with personal growth and knowledge.
How about you all? What things have you learned you CAN do this year? I’d love to hear your stories of strength and survival!
Until next time!
Lindsey Robinson is a Reiki master healer and Tuning Fork Therapy practitioner at Lotus Wellness Center. To book a session with Lindsey, email: email@example.com
It is Sunday December 3rd and I am sitting in a hotel room in Scottsdale, AZ thinking about how crazy it is we are at the end of 2017. What a quick trip through!
I am thankful though. 2017 has been one of the more challenging years for many people (as according to Facebook!) including myself. Alot of public upsets, public and personal deaths, hospital stays and personal tragedies. Goodbye 2017, we are ready to be done!
What I absolutely love about endings, is that there is always a new beginning right around the corner. In this case, the promise of a new year and a chance to start fresh. It’s like wiping the slate clean and saying, “All right Spirit, let’s try this thing called Life again.”
Usually in December, I tend to be in a reflective mood. I recount all the happenings of the year and reread journals to get a sense of where I have been and what I have been through. It is getting closure by celebrating the wins and putting to rest one last time, the losses…because I never intend to take these losses into the New Year with me.
I thought this was a natural process for everyone but quickly discovered, it was not. At our last New Year New You retreat held in January this past year, Rob and I discovered that people rarely take time to journal and reflect on their experiences. Our students were so excited about their journaling experiences because it brought forward so many realizations and put everything they went through into perspective. It took the emotional charge off of their past hurts and pains and allowed them to sit in the silence of gratitude for the experiences. It was indeed eye opening for some.
The great thing about the end of this year is we also have a mercury retrograde period from December 3rd-December 21st. A Mercury retrograde period according to astrology, is a period when planet Mercury goes backwards in movement. Mercury being the resident planet of communication, logical thinking, technology and transportation means that in a retrograde period, you can almost always see signs of delays in travel, technology malfunction and communication issues arise. People with alot of Virgo and Gemini signs in their natal chart tend to be mostly affected as well. As depressing as it may sound, I have actually come to embrace the Mercury Retrograde periods. Because logic is at bay and emotions are in full swing, I tend to take this time to do some serious reflection and meditation. It is the perfect time for insights to be delivered AND received because psychically, we are more in a state of allowance.
As we slowly wind down the end of this year and get ready for the New Year, I encourage you to use the beautiful energy of this Mercury Retrograde to create closure for 2017 and fill hope for 2018. All of life is a process. We are never going, going, going all the time. Sometimes we need space to just Be, just Breathe and just sit awhile. Let this month be that time for you. I mean, all the planets are aligning for you to have this moment of stillness in time, why not take them up on their offer? 😉
Here are some ideas on how to properly use this energy to set yourself up energetically to be ready for 2018:
As quickly as 2017 came and went, it still happened and for most of us, there were some pivotal moments in time that took our breath away….for good or for bad reasons. Have you processed all of them completely? In my two day New Year New You Workshop, I coined Saturday as “Out with the Old” and Sunday as “In with the New”. On Saturday I take participants through this journaling exercise using a workbook where they answer questions about the year and it asks them to dig deep into understanding what all of it meant. You can do this at home too and create your own workbook according to your desire. It can be as simple as three questions:
The idea here is the have some sort of summary report on 2017 so going forward, when you look back, you can sum it up in one sentence. I saw a post on Instagram by a friend where she described her annual summaries as, “2016 I was the caterpillar, 2017 I was the cocoon and 2018 I will be the butterfly.”
Having an idea of each year gives meaning to your life and tells a story as you go along. You can see the intricacies of how all the painful and joyous moments worked together to create the fabric of your life story. For me, it is empowering. It gives life to the those joyous moments which sparkle like gold glitter in the air and it brings humbleness and gratitude for the painful moments that made me stronger. Everything has a purpose, and in journaling we find out what they are.
2. Declutter the Home
In journaling and reflecting on 2017, you are in a way, energetically clearing up space in your mind, heart and body about events past. Why not physically clear out your physical surroundings as well?
There is an energetic link between our home where we live and our home in our minds. When we feel good at our physical abode, our energetic abode feels good too. Simply put, a clean home makes you feel relaxed mentally and emotionally.
Now is a good time to go through those drawers and throw out things you do not use or have not used in forever. Go through your filing cabinet and shred old documents you no longer need. I remember in cleaning out my office space in 2016, I found old test results from massage school in 2008! I assure you, I have no plans to retake the tests, so out it went with the trash!
Go through your closets and donate clothing and jackets in good condition to homeless shelters or organizations that can use them. This doesn’t have to be a solo event, make it fun for the whole family and treat everyone to a nice dinner after dropping off your items to a donation spot. OR get a jump start on your spring garage sales by rounding up and collecting all sellable items and storing it away in the basement or garage until Spring rolls around. Just remember to bring them out next year and sell or donate them then!
3. Financial Planning
Most of us do not include any financial planning in our lives, living simply paycheck to paycheck. If this has been your agenda in the past, do not bring it into the future with you. Financial planning can take on many forms, from hiring a professional financial planner, to discussing ideas with your accountant to a much simpler plan like the ideas listed here:
4. Make Amends
As we go through life, we have disagreements and upsets with people in our community. Whether it is our inner circle or acquaintances, there are bound to be times of disruption and unrest. Let it go.
As you move into 2018, allow yourself to let go of the drama and heartache you went through this year with these people. If they really mean something to you, then reach out to them and apologize. Even if you don’t think you were in the wrong, apologize anyways. There is a great saying, “It is better to be kind than to be right.” When you apologize and make amends, what you are essentially saying to that person is, “I don’t care if I am wrong and you are right. I just care about having you in my life. Can we make up now? I miss you and want you in my life.”
Of course you cannot dictate how the other person will respond, but trust me when I say, it wouldn’t matter. At the core of your being, you are Love. And in extending an olive branch, you are acting out of Love. If they chose not to accept it, you will still feel relief because you know in your heart, you made the decision to reach out and there is nothing else you can do after that. You will feel lighter despite the outcome and that in of itself, is worth the exercise.
Now there are some relationships where the pain is still too great to bear. Maybe you are in the middle of a divorce and your partner is attacking you. Maybe you still work with your boss who is aggressive in interactions towards you and you are not in a position to leave. You might ask then, what do I do? These people are not interested in making amends or being peaceful. In situations where you feel the person will not be receptive or you are not in an emotional place to do such a thing, then let go energetically.
A simple technique is to light a candle and write your letter to that person saying everything you have ever wanted to say including the good, the bad and the downright ugly. Once you get it ALL out on paper, burn it and make the intention to God/Source/Universe or whoever it may be, that you are letting go of this situation and this person energetically and in the new year, you intend to see them with fresh eyes and hope they do the same for you. It really is like magic! When I have suggested these techniques to my clients in coaching sessions, they have reported back with some amazing results where the other person stopped attacking them and for one person, her boss got transferred to another department! Wishes DO come true!
5. Set your Intentions for the New Year
A home cannot be built without a foundation. Many times in the Spiritual community, I hear students say something like “Spirit is directing me and I have no plan, I go where Spirit is taking me.” That is a great concept but even Spirit needs a map to your future!
If you are not as uptight as my Capricorn self and do not want to create bullet points and quarterly assessments about your new years resolutions (true story), then do a vision board. Cut out pictures that represent what you want for your life. If you want a new home, new car or to be in a love relationship, put pictures on your board that represent those ideals. A Vision Board is a fun way to set your Intent for the New Year and gives Spirit an idea of where you are heading and what you want to create.
I hope you found these tips useful and if so, please feel free to share with your loved ones or leave a comment! It is my sincere hope that everyone brings a peaceful end to 2017 and enter 2018 full of desires, well wishes and manifesting ability. I believe we all are truly meant to have it all, and with a little vision and planning, we can.
Uma Alexandra Beepat is the owner of a metaphysical center in Manassas, VA where she teaches classes in Spiritual Development and offers services in energy healing, life coaching and intuitive readings. For more information, visit www.umalotusflower.com.
Essential oils have been around for centuries but only recently began a rise to fame with the onset of popular oil producing industries such as DoTerra and Young Living.
As a wellness advocate for DoTerra and a certified level I aromatherapist, I love sharing my knowledge and expertise with oils with my clients. It is my intent to do so now with this article, to bring awareness and education to the general public of the wonderful, therapeutic benefits of essential oils as well as answer some popular questions concerning my involvement with an oil company.
Let’s start at the beginning.
What are essential oils?
Essential oils are natural, aromatic compounds extracted from seeds, bark, stems, roots, flowers, and other parts of a plant. Essential oils contain natural and unique properties that can have powerful benefits on a person’s health and wellness.
How do you use essential oils?
There are three known methods for oil usage but one of them is debatable in the oils community. Let’s discuss each:
How do I include oils in my daily regime?
There are lots of ways to use oils! Here are a few of my personal favorite oils and methods in using them:
Bottom line is simple, there are many oils and many therapeutic benefits associated with each oil. You don’t need to figure it out yourself! This is where someone like me and my team come in. We take the necessary training and have the experience with each oil to share our information with you.
If you are in the Northern Virginia area, stop by one of our monthly Essential Oils 101 classes. You can find a calendar of our oil events here: www.meetup.com/thelotusandthelight.
If you have been clicking on the links to each oil, you would have been taken to my website and seen the retail prices. My advice is simple, sign up for a membership and get the wholesale price for the oils. If you are interested in adding oils to your daily routines this is my recommendation:
I have felt so empowered following the oil track and being able to take care of myself and loved ones. And that to me, is the greatest gift I can give myself.
Love and light until next time,
Hypnosis, you either like it or are scared of it. That is generally the reactions I have been getting since my hypnosis certification in January. So of course…..I have to blog about what Hypnosis really is and how it can help you 🙂
When I first heard of my teacher Tim Horn of Hypnoconsult LLC as a hypnotist, I was fearful. You want to “put me under” and do what?! I shudder to think back to those early days of my ignorance and how uncomfortable I must have made Tim feel. I asked him every cliched thing in the book I could because well, honestly my knowledge of hypnosis was based solely on tv shows!
“Are you going to make me cluck like a chicken?” No.
“Am I not going to remember?” No.
“Am I going to look stupid?” You do that on your own. 😉
But thankfully, Tim is a patient man and he suffered through my silly questions in order to educate me about his profession. Am I glad he did! When I met Tim years ago, we did a trade where I offered him massage in exchange for hypnosis. I was dealing with overweight issues and had a sweet tooth unfortunately. To this day I remember my first hypnosis session with Tim clearly and was so impressed with it, that I went on to take training through Tim’s program and become a certified hypnotist myself.
Here are some things to note about my personal experience with hypnosis:
1) I remember most to everything said
Many times the fear associated with hypnosis is that we will be “under some type of spell” and not conscious of what is happening. Then the evil hypnotist can take advantage of us! Well media had something to do with that because when I was hypnotized, I was very aware of what was happening, albeit in a relaxed state. To best describe it, I can hear car alarms going off and dogs barking, but I have no desire to move or respond, I am in such a peaceful state.
2) Hypnosis works!
Hypnosis works because while in the hypnotic state, a client is more open to suggestions. Our analytical and calculating conscious mind is resting, so the subconscious mind is in full play, and this mind tends to be more open and accepting of new ideas. If I could imagine my mind talking, it would look like this for me:
Hypnotist: You feel very happy when you are exercising, in fact you crave exercising, you crave it so much, you want to do it everyday for at least an hour at a time.
Conscious mind: no way dude! I have sciatica pain, do you know how that will hurt? and where will I find the time? An hour! are you kidding me?!
Subconscious mind: Okay.
When Tim hypnotized me, we addressed my love of chocolate cake. Ohhh its sinful. I can eat a whole cake by myself. I remember vaguely him saying that I don’t really care for chocolate cake anymore and it reminds me of sweaty socks. No lie, to this day, i can probably have a bite or two of chocolate cake but then I hear Tim’s voice about the sweaty socks and I stop eating immediately! This is three years later!
3) Changes are permanent
Just like my chocolate cake dilemma, other new behaviors have embedded within me. Hypnosis doesn’t address your conscious mind, it address the subconscious realm which dictates 85% of our behavior in real time. When you have one session with a hypnotist, usually you notice results right away. I tend to offer a three pack session when working because in each following session, I build on the first one to really anchor the suggestion down. This makes the change more permanent and a greater possibility to last.
4) You are awake and cognizant
If there was a fire in the building, I would jump up and run out with everyone else. Hypnosis does not prevent you from self survival or put you in harm. Remember in the subconscious realm, you are open to suggestions ONLY IF it is acceptable to you. If I was with a hypnotist and she tried to assault me physically in any way, I would stop her because I would not be open to that behavior. I explain this in detail to clients because there is the general fear about getting hypnotized by a male hypnotist and being taken advantage of. This is nonsense! While I can’t speak for ALL male hypnotists, I can speak for the few I know (Tim and Rob) and believe me, they are interested more in helping you overcome your addictions and problems than peeking down your shirt. Have some faith people!
All in all, I have had some tremendous success with my hypnosis clients. I have worked on a woman who had social anxiety issues and she reported back that she went out to a bar with friends that weekend. I have worked on a man with smoking addictions and he quit after the first session. I have also worked on a woman with weight loss goals and she has lost over 20 pounds and now crave healthy foods.
Curious? Give it a try! I am including my contact info as well as my friends who do it as well. We are here to help and hypnosis truly does work.
HI there! Uma here! and coming to you with this new certification I recently received and my clients have been enjoying. So let’s jump right in, shall we?
What IS Life Coaching?
I know, I know the title is somewhat depressing. I mean when I first heard of it, my initial thought was “So you mean to tell me I suck so bad at life, I need a coach?!” Who wants to hear that ever?
Well turns out, I had a bad attitude about it (foot in mouth syndrome) because not only did I spend a year with a life coach and completely turned my life around, but I became one too!
My Personal Journey
I have my own stuff to worry about. Sometimes people forget I have a back story. They look at the thriving wellness center, my loud and fun personality, my wonderful kids and think “She has it all.” I know this because this is what people have told me. To my face. In real time. And I am always shocked. I have a lot going on too! How do you not see the mess within me?
Now don’t get me wrong, I am an AMAZING healer/speaker/teacher/author (duh!) and it IS because of all the experiences I went through in life however the back story is real. And it was beginning to come to the front more and more.
I spent a year seeing a therapist. Every week. No kidding. I have to say, she did a lot for me. She validated how I was feeling and taught me that my thoughts and feelings are real regardless of how other people felt about it. I am incredibly grateful for her because I don’t think I would be here today without all of her amazing help. However. Once I worked through my ISH, I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t have anything else to talk about. I was feeling real peaceful with my past. However, I was having some serious issues in my present.
Luckily as faith would have it, a life coach came into my life last year in the form of my boyfriend Rob Pritchard. Rob is the owner of the Healing Frequency and an amazing person and healer. When we initially got together, we thought it was a match made in heaven! Two healers with their own businesses, similar interests and friends dating? How does it get better?
Well it didn’t. It got worse! What no one tells you in this divine match up is that we each became a very good, clean, shiny mirror for the parts of ourselves we weren’t too happy with. I saw myself in full regalia and I didn’t like it one bit.
This is where the life coaching came in. Thankfully Rob didn’t run (whew!) but he chose to help me through it. He knew I was reacting to the mirror and he didn’t take anything personally but kept reminding me of the greatness that lay within me, albeit dormant, but coming to the surface. For a year, I fought with him like a rabid dog on the loose, but he never let up and he never gave in. He remained firm, he remained stoic and I loved him even more.
I came out of 2015 a new woman. I came out feeling confident, sure of myself and for the first time in 38 years, independent. I didn’t need Rob or anyone else for my happiness, I found it within myself. And that is in part due to my own inner work but mostly to Rob’s life coaching skills and me finally taking a knee and listening.
This year I took the certification course in life coaching with Rob because I saw just how beneficial it was and it changed my perspective ALOT on life coaching. A coach is not someone yelling at you and beating you down but instead someone who is more like your partner in helping you achieve your goals.
What is a Life Coach:
I have been all of these things and so much more to my recent clients who have signed on for their coaching sessions. There is so much work to be done and sometimes we can get overwhelmed in life. I recently had a client who felt wishy washy about what she wanted to do in life and her life purpose. After our coaching session, she realized she had a deep desire to follow a path but the amount of work it took made her fearful and anxious, that is why she kept going back and forth.
Right now you are probably thinking, “hmmmm I could probably use a coach myself. I definitely got some areas in my life that need cleaning up.”
So what do you do? Well first there needs to be a deep desire and willingness to want to change and grow. If you come in as a client because someone else is making you do it, it will not work because you are not personally vested. When you are all in the game, I am ready to work with you because I know the desire is there to make a change.
Once you decide to contact a coach and set up your session, you are well on your way! Besides the major result of getting you from where you are now and where you ultimately want to be, there are many other benefits to coaching:
Benefits of Life Coaching:
There are many more reasons why coaching works and has helped so many people in life. The most important reason for me though is Accountability. A Coach will hold you accountable for any steps planned. This is where our friends and loved ones can’t go. They sympathize with us, they understand when we don’t have energy to do our homework because the kids were sick or you need to make dinner. Not a coach! A coach will EMPATHIZE with you but they will not join you in your little pity party. They may give you a day to get yourself together (thanks Rob!) but then its back to the grind.
I loved the accountability part of coaching because sometimes I like many people let certain goals drop. There is a reason why resolutions aren’t completed! As humans we fall somewhere along the line. A coach will keep a running tab on your homework and commit to meeting you at the finish line. Trust me, my coach is still here. 😉
So do you think this is for you? Can I be your coach? Sure I can! It just takes your determination to decide so. I am so excited about this new certification i have that I want to share it with you! So for the month of April, I am offering a 30% discount on the 90 minute session I created for my clients. It involves coaching to go through the issues you are dealing with and we end with some Reiki energy work to balance and soothe your energy.
Don’t wait! Book this appointment today! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also opt to have a one hour coaching session without Reiki whether in person or by phone as well!
Until next time,
Love and light
xo Uma xo