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2018-I Welcome You! by Rae Roach

2017 .. it’s over!! And it was a DOOZY for so many of my friends and acquaintances. For me it was one of the easier years. Don’t get me wrong, there were major challenges, major changes and major growth but because of the self-work I have been doing (years of it..lol) I was able to handle it better than years prior. I can not go any farther without saying a very special thank you to those that went through it with me and are STILL by my side–I am grateful, humbled and in awe of each of you!! Truly not sure I could’ve made it without your support and love!

2018 .. If you are into numerology you will know this is an 11 Universal Year. (If you are not and want to know more please let me know–I LOVE numerology!!) When I realized this it hit me .. That is my Life Path 11/2. OMG this is MY year! With that knowledge I (easily) made the decision to forge my path, purpose and passion full-time. In the past this would have been extremely daunting, nerve wracking, with a big oh dose of WTH am I thinking!! Even as I sit here and write this I still feel none of those feelings. The knowledge that I AM worthy of the life I desire, I AM capable of achieving it, I DO have the knowledge though my experiences to impart on others, I CAN be helpful to those in need of guidance, I CAN and WILL be successful, I FOLLOW my gut instincts because I DO believe in my intuitive abilities. We ALL deserve the life you envision for yourself and YOU CAN achieve it.

In my self-work I have been studying many individuals in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. The ones I gravitate towards are Wayne Dyer, Don Miguel Ruiz, Sr and Jr, Don Jose Ruiz, Susan Jeffers, the teachings of Abraham Hicks and many more. Some of the things I have gleaned from these individuals were life-changing; feel the fear and do it anyway; stay in your vortex, you can’t solve the problem with the same mind that created it; you can only control to the tip of your finger; live authentically; don’t take things personal; your opinion of ME is none of MY business; give up your personal history and don’t die with the music still in you. These are just a few thoughts, or mantras, that I now live by; but, more importantly I have learned to embrace silence.

This weekend I attended a New Year—New You 2-day Workshop presented by Uma Alexandra Beepat, of Lotus Wellness Center, and Rob Pritchard, of The Healing Frequency. Among the many things we went over the one that resonated the most was the part about Fear. We were sitting in a circle and Uma asked us what fear was holding us back. I was at the end of the circle and as each participant talked about their individual fear(s) I felt a connection with each but had a serious revelation—I no longer felt the fear of them. Now, let me be completely honest here, just because I no longer felt the fear does NOT mean I no longer feel fearful. I do!! But what I realized was I no longer felt the crippling effect of fear.

You know what I’m referring to .. you can’t move or think or react rationally because the fear is palpable!!

This was a MAJOR breakthrough for me because I have constantly lived in fear; fear of the unknown, fear of what people thought of me, my decisions, the direction I truly wanted to go, fear that no one would accept me AS ME, and fear that I am unlovable. And that is just a few that come to mind!! How did these fears abate you might ask .. well as I mentioned above—YEARS of self-work. Let me tell you right here and right now …. IT WAS EXCRUCIATINGLY PAINFUL! The driving force was to just get through it! And as I sit on the other side of through I can look back with clear eyes and see the craziness of it all! We all think we are protecting ourselves by staying in our ‘comfort zones’ or by ignoring the problem/situation or swallowing the pain, hurt, guilt, shame, regret—you name it. But in truth, I never understood how confining my comfort zone was until I finally stepped out of it.

I now stand in my POWER with the knowledge that this life is for the taking .. it is mine .. it is yours .. it is ALL of OURS to take. The Universe is there to deliver to each of us our desires, we just have to realize, accept and step into it. There is no competition – I am not taking from you and you are not taking from me!

 

SO STEP INTO YOUR POWER!!

Feel the Fear and DO it anyway!!

Seriously, what do you have to lose?

2018 brings with it massive change and I welcome it with the excitement of a child .. What else is possible??

 

As I embark on this chapter of my life I wanted to let you know exactly what I will be doing and it is my desire that should you need guidance, assistance, counsel you will seek me out. I have a tribe that is also available to and for you and I look forward to connecting with you, or connecting you with my Tribe, so you too can start your journey to YOU!

 

 

The journey continues …

Rae Roach

 

 

 

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Posted on: January 2nd, 2018 No Comments

Hypnosis: The Inner Workings of the Mind

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Hypnosis, you either like it or are scared of it. That is generally the reactions I have been getting since my hypnosis certification in January. So of course…..I have to blog about what Hypnosis really is and how it can help you 🙂

When I first heard of my teacher Tim Horn of Hypnoconsult LLC  as a hypnotist, I was fearful. You want to “put me under” and do what?! I shudder to think back to those early days of my ignorance and how uncomfortable I must have made Tim feel. I asked him every cliched thing in the book I could because well, honestly my knowledge of hypnosis was based solely on tv shows!

“Are you going to make me cluck like a chicken?”  No.

“Am I not going to remember?” No.

“Am I going to look stupid?” You do that on your own. 😉

But thankfully, Tim is a patient man and he suffered through my silly questions in order to educate me about his profession. Am I glad he did! When I met Tim years ago, we did a trade where I offered him massage in exchange for hypnosis. I was dealing with overweight issues and had a sweet tooth unfortunately. To this day I remember my first hypnosis session with Tim clearly and was so impressed with it, that I went on to take training through Tim’s program and become a certified hypnotist myself.

Here are some things to note about my personal experience with hypnosis:

1) I remember most to everything said

Many times the fear associated with hypnosis is that we will be “under some type of spell” and not conscious of what is happening. Then the evil hypnotist can take advantage of us! Well media had something to do with that because when I was hypnotized, I was very aware of what was happening, albeit in a relaxed state. To best describe it, I can hear car alarms going off and dogs barking, but I have no desire to move or respond, I am in such a peaceful state.

2) Hypnosis works! 

Hypnosis works because while in the hypnotic state, a client is more open to suggestions. Our analytical and calculating conscious mind is resting, so the subconscious mind is in full play, and this mind tends to be more open and accepting of new ideas. If I could imagine my mind talking, it would look like this for me:

Hypnotist: You feel very happy when you are exercising, in fact you crave exercising, you crave it so much, you want to do it everyday for at least an hour at a time.

Conscious mind: no way dude! I have sciatica pain, do you know how that will hurt? and where will I find the time? An hour! are you kidding me?!

Subconscious mind: Okay.

When Tim hypnotized me, we addressed my love of chocolate cake. Ohhh its sinful. I can eat a whole cake by myself. I remember vaguely him saying that I don’t really care for chocolate cake anymore and it reminds me of sweaty socks. No lie, to this day, i can probably have a bite or two of chocolate cake but then I hear Tim’s voice about the sweaty socks and I stop eating immediately! This is three years later!

3) Changes are permanent

Just like my chocolate cake dilemma, other new behaviors have embedded within me. Hypnosis doesn’t address your conscious mind, it address the subconscious realm which dictates 85% of our behavior in real time. When you have one session with a hypnotist, usually you notice results right away. I tend to offer a three pack session when working because in each following session, I build on the first one to really anchor the suggestion down. This makes the change more permanent and a greater possibility to last.

4) You are awake and cognizant

If there was a fire in the building, I would jump up and run out with everyone else. Hypnosis does not prevent you from self survival or put you in harm. Remember in the subconscious realm, you are open to suggestions ONLY IF it is acceptable to you. If I was with a hypnotist and she tried to assault me physically in any way, I would stop her because I would not be open to that behavior. I explain this in detail to clients because there is the general fear about getting hypnotized by a male hypnotist and being taken advantage of. This is nonsense! While I can’t speak for ALL male hypnotists, I can speak for the few I know (Tim and Rob) and believe me, they are interested more in helping you overcome your addictions and problems than peeking down your shirt. Have some faith people!

All in all, I have had some tremendous success with my hypnosis clients. I have worked on a woman who had social anxiety issues and she reported back that she went out to a bar with friends that weekend. I have worked on a man with smoking addictions and he quit after the first session. I have also worked on a woman with weight loss goals and she has lost over 20 pounds and now crave healthy foods.

Curious? Give it a try! I am including my contact info as well as my friends who do it as well. We are here to help and hypnosis truly does work.

Uma: uma@lotuswellnesscenter.net

Tim: timhornphd@aol.com

Rob: reikiwlb@gmail.com

Posted on: June 27th, 2016 No Comments

Do I need a Life Coach?

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HI there! Uma here! and coming to you with this new certification I recently received and my clients have been enjoying. So let’s jump right in, shall we?

What IS Life Coaching?

I know, I know the title is somewhat depressing. I mean when I first heard of it, my initial thought was “So you mean to tell me I suck so bad at life, I need a coach?!” Who wants to hear that ever?

Well turns out, I had a bad attitude about it (foot in mouth syndrome) because not only did I spend a year with a life coach and completely turned my life around, but I became one too!

My Personal Journey

I have my own stuff to worry about. Sometimes people forget I have a back story. They look at the thriving wellness center, my loud and fun personality, my wonderful kids and think “She has it all.” I know this because this is what people have told me. To my face. In real time. And I am always shocked. I have a lot going on too! How do you not see the mess within me?

Now don’t get me wrong, I am an AMAZING healer/speaker/teacher/author (duh!) and it IS because of all the experiences I went through in life however the back story is real. And it was beginning to come to the front more and more.

I spent a year seeing a therapist. Every week. No kidding. I have to say, she did a lot for me. She validated how I was feeling and taught me that my thoughts and feelings are real regardless of how other people felt about it. I am incredibly grateful for her because I don’t think I would be here today without all of her amazing help. However. Once I worked through my ISH, I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t have anything else to talk about. I was feeling real peaceful with my past. However, I was having some serious issues in my present.

Luckily as faith would have it, a life coach came into my life last year in the form of my boyfriend Rob Pritchard. Rob is the owner of the Healing Frequency and an amazing person and healer. When we initially got together, we thought it was a match made in heaven! Two healers with their own businesses, similar interests and friends dating? How does it get better?

Well it didn’t. It got worse! What no one tells you in this divine match up is that we each became a very good, clean, shiny mirror for the parts of ourselves we weren’t too happy with. I saw myself in full regalia and I didn’t like it one bit.

This is where the life coaching came in. Thankfully Rob didn’t run (whew!) but he chose to help me through it. He knew I was reacting to the mirror and he didn’t take anything personally but kept reminding me of the greatness that lay within me, albeit dormant, but coming to the surface. For a year, I fought with him like a rabid dog on the loose, but he never let up and he never gave in. He remained firm, he remained stoic and I loved him even more.

I came out of 2015 a new woman. I came out feeling confident, sure of myself and for the first time in 38 years, independent. I didn’t need Rob or anyone else for my happiness, I found it within myself. And that is in part due to my own inner work but mostly to Rob’s life coaching skills and me finally taking a knee and listening.

This year I took the certification course in life coaching with Rob because I saw just how beneficial it was and it changed my perspective ALOT on life coaching. A coach is not someone yelling at you and beating you down but instead someone who is more like your partner in helping you achieve your goals.

What is a Life Coach:

  • A sounding board when exploring choices
  • A motivational mentor
  • One who gives unconditional support
  • A wake up call and a reality check in
  • A designer to help create a more productive life
  • A referee to help clients push the envelope
  • A beacon during stormy times

I have been all of these things and so much more to my recent clients who have signed on for their coaching sessions. There is so much work to be done and sometimes we can get overwhelmed in life. I recently had a client who felt wishy washy about what she wanted to do in life and her life purpose. After our coaching session, she realized she had a deep desire to follow a path but the amount of work it took made her fearful and anxious, that is why she kept going back and forth.

Right now you are probably thinking, “hmmmm I could probably use a coach myself. I definitely got some areas in my life that need cleaning up.”

So what do you do? Well first there needs to be a deep desire and willingness to want to change and grow. If you come in as a client because someone else is making you do it, it will not work because you are not personally vested. When you are all in the game, I am ready to work with you because I know the desire is there to make a change.

Once you decide to contact a coach and set up your session, you are well on your way! Besides the major result of getting you from where you are now and where you ultimately want to be, there are many other benefits to coaching:

Benefits of Life Coaching:

  • You will BE in action as you determine and set goals with your coach. Finding out what you really want and what goals to set is the first course of action. Rob made me realize my time management was all wrong if I wanted to accomplish the mega life I wanted, so through his guidance I created a time management plan that I am still using a year later!
  • Create a balanced life because you designed it. A coach will not tell you what to do, that is not what coaching is about. Instead they will ask questions and have you ponder and think about what you want to do.
  • Help you to “push the envelope”. Your coach will nudge you out of your comfort zone without having you feel overwhelmed by the process. You will feel safe reaching for more because your coach is your partner and will be by your side as you do it.
  • Help you make better decisions. Now that your focus is defined and clear, you can see things clearly and know what you need to do for your particular issue.
  • Develop more energy! This was an unexpected side effect that I welcomed! When Rob started clearing through my belief patterns, it relieved a lot of energy I had tied up in it and I started working out more and getting more things done. What a treat!
  • Help Clear up Unresolved Issues. This was a big one for me. Most of us need closure and most of us feel we need another person’s blessing for closure. With a coach we start to see the situation as it is and we resolve it for ourselves. It is a truly freeing moment to experience this.

There are many more reasons why coaching works and has helped so many people in life. The most important reason for me though is Accountability. A Coach will hold you accountable for any steps planned. This is where our friends and loved ones can’t go. They sympathize with us, they understand when we don’t have energy to do our homework because the kids were sick or you need to make dinner. Not a coach! A coach will EMPATHIZE with you but they will not join you in your little pity party. They may give you a day to get yourself together (thanks Rob!) but then its back to the grind.

I loved the accountability part of coaching because sometimes I like many people let certain goals drop. There is a reason why resolutions aren’t completed! As humans we fall somewhere along the line. A coach will keep a running tab on your homework and commit to meeting you at the finish line. Trust me, my coach is still here. 😉

So do you think this is for you? Can I be your coach? Sure I can! It just takes your determination to decide so. I am so excited about this new certification i have that I want to share it with you! So for the month of April, I am offering a 30% discount on the 90 minute session I created for my clients. It involves coaching to go through the issues you are dealing with and we end with some Reiki energy work to balance and soothe your energy.

Don’t wait! Book this appointment today! Email me at uma@lotuswellnesscenter.net. You can also opt to have a one hour coaching session without Reiki whether in person or by phone as well!

Until next time,

Love and light

xo Uma xo

Posted on: April 1st, 2016 No Comments

The Higher I go….The Easier Life Becomes

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Namaste all,

It’s been awhile since I have been on here and I do apologize! We have been so busy at the center and now with the addition of all our wonderful healers, we have been blessed to have many different blog posts not just my usual rambling.

But of course I have stuff to talk about, so I shall ramble on.

The title of this Blog Post, “The Higher I go…The Easier Life Becomes” is actually one of the many mantras Rob gave me. Rob is a Master Healer at Lotus Wellness Center and when I was taking private instruction from him in his #fiveweekchallenge he found blocks to my intended awesomeness and came up with some neat mantras I repeat to myself on a daily basis. This one I struggled with until today.

The funny thing about the Universe is that it brings to you exactly what you want. This is why it is so important for your heart and your mind to be in alignment. You can say with your lips mantras and affirmations but if your heart believes another story, you send that out to the Universe. I believe strongly that while your mind has a link to the Universe, your heart is the gateway to making your intentions come true.

So here I am, little ole’ me sitting daily and saying my mantras: I have unique talents and abilities, I am a Master in manifesting abundance, I dream huge and I know I can achieve my dreams, The Higher I go- The Easier Life becomes…and I struggle every time with the last one. 

Why? Because deep in my heart that has not been my belief for a very long time. If we go back…way back…..way, way back….my earliest memory of limitations would come from my mom. She would tell people, “Alex has to work hard for everything she has but for her brothers it came easier for them.” Now wait a minute! Before you get all loyal to me and start bashing my momma, it’s all good. She didn’t mean it in a put down way, that was her belief system and that was based on the fact that everyday she saw me studying for hours and hours and my brothers playing and hanging out. We all got good grades so she assumed I had to work hard and they didn’t.

The thing is, I believed  her when she repeated it over and over to people so I started to embody it. When I was studying hard in the beginning, it was because of a love of learning (and you can clearly see that love hasn’t left because of all the trainings and reading I still do!) but then it became a necessity because I started to believe I needed to work hard because things didn’t come as easily to me.

Can you identify? Stop reading! Take a moment and think for a minute, has anyone ever said anything about you or to you that you have started to accept? Maybe they said you were average looking, or couldn’t go anywhere in life or couldn’t amount to anything. Did you start to believe that? Now you see my story.

As with everything, I don’t think people are bad in nature or meant to be harmful. I think there is a lot of talking going on and it is always mindless. If you are intuitive, you pick up and embody what they say especially if they are close to you because you don’t doubt their judgments about you. Why would they lie?

It’s not lying but more mindless chatter. We need to pay attention to it and cancel it out before it can take up residence in your mind. I have a thing I do now when I hear something that is not in alignment with my soul, I say “Cancel/Delete!” and sometimes I shock people out of their socks because I am known to be loud when I say it. I say this statement for big things like “You will never make it big.” to little things like, “You are cranky today”  Cancel/Delete! Because I may be cranky now before my morning coffee but it doesn’t set the tone for the rest of the day and you my friend shall not do it for me!

So back to my original post. I have spent the last 30 years embodying the principle that:

1) I have to work hard for everything I have

2) The more I make and become successful, the harder life becomes

And Rob picked up on both of those old belief systems hence why he gave me my specific affirmations. In reality, we make our lives and we can choose whether it will be easy or hard. I know some of you are struggling right now and wondering, “Is Uma crazy? Why would I choose this for myself?” And my answer to you, is I don’t know….why would you?

I have seen it and witnessed it with my own eyes how I self sabotage myself when the going gets good. I recently started reading this book under Micha’s recommendation, its called The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. To hit on one point (there are many that are amazing, you got to read it!) he said that every time we excel at something, we create a negative situation to anchor us and bring us back down from that high. Oh boy, did he just call me out or what?!

See this whole year has been magical, I have beautiful success and awesomeness at my studio , got in a great and loving relationship and have been just having fun and enjoying life to the fullest. So of course I had to throw some drama in there! This year also came with some cat fights, loss of friends and even a couple of tiffs with my boyfriend. What am I doing?

I’m doing what we all do, starting something because the belief still lies in me that I can’t have good things happen to me. I don’t deserve it.

The Higher I go, The Easier Life Becomes.  I started meditating on this fact today because today is the day I change my belief system and really start to agree with this affirmation. The beautiful thing about self discovery is that is all you need to affect change in a positive direction for yourself.

Many times when I help a client integrate a new belief system or address an old one, the insights are powerful and huge. I love seeing the look of wonder and amazement on their face and then they ask me, “Ok what else do I need to do? How do I make the change?” Really, there is nothing else to do. Once you have understood why you do what you do, that knowledge alone is powerful enough to create change. We are adaptable and evolving light beings and we are always striving to be better and become lighter in our consciousness. When we receive insights into our behaviors, the changes happen and take us to new levels of understanding that in turn become new levels of being and behaving.

So in closing, I shared this with you to let you know that yes, life is easy and the more you achieve, the more easier it becomes. If you are like me and grew up with the knowledge that life is hard and you have to work hard to get what you have, banish it! Take it out of your mind and to the corners of the earth because we are truly living in a new time and space. We are in the dimension of manifesting the lives we want and it is an easy process.

Don’t believe me? Then stay tuned! Watch how I end this year in a fantastic style with much more abundance and happiness than I have had all year, heck all my life. The tide has turned for me and I can truly say to you, The higher I go, the easier life becomes. Wouldn’t you join me in making the rest of your life the best of your life? 😉

Until later, love and light

Uma xo

Posted on: September 21st, 2015 No Comments

Why be mindful?

You’ve probably heard the term mindful or mindfulness. It’s getting a lot of good press lately. So, what’s mindfulness all about and why should we bother?

First, there’re a few different ways the word mindful or mindfulness can be used, so let’s get clear on we’re talking about. The word mindfulness can refer to mindfulness meditation, which is based on a Buddhist meditation; mindful can be a character trait, such as, ‘Bob is always so mindful of other people’s feelings.’; and it can be a practice of a moment to moment awareness of what you’re experiencing emotionally and physically without judgment. We’ll be discussing this last definition.

What does it mean to be mindful in this way? It means to observe what you’re feeling, seeing, smelling, tasting, touching, and hearing without assigning a judgment of good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, or fun or boring.

To practice mindfulness in this way, it is much easier to start with experiences that are already fairly neutral for you. Most of us don’t think too much about brushing our teeth, but this can be a great place to start. It’s very experiential and something we do a couple of times a day. Start with how the toothbrush feels in your hand. How does the toothpaste smell? How does it taste? What do the bristles feel like on your gums? What are you seeing as you brush your teeth? What do you hear? Are you aware of any emotions as you’re brushing your teeth? The point of this exercise is to start observing these things. Once you can brush your teeth mindfully, you can add in other activities.

The real question is, ‘Why should we bother?’ According to the American Psychological Association (APA)[1], there are many benefits of being mindful. These include:

  1. Reduced rumination.
  2. Stress reduction.
  3. Boosts to working memory.
  4. Focus.
  5. Less emotional reactivity.
  6. More cognitive flexibility.
  7. Relationship satisfaction.

Have thoughts that go around and around in your head like they’re on a loop? That’s rumination and can be eased with mindfulness. Stress? Does that even need to be a question in our society? You can reduce stress with mindfulness. There are many benefits and there are more to be found if you’re looking.

According to the APA, in addition to these benefits, being mindful has other side effects. These include:

  1. Empathy.
  2. Compassion.
  3. Decreased stress and anxiety.
  4. Better quality of life.

These are pretty great as far as effects of a simple practice go. I’ll also add that finding more gratitude is another effect many people find of mindfulness.

Does this mean that mindfulness will make your life a piece of cake? No, absolutely not. What it does mean is that you will be more clear-headed and focused; less stressed; and more compassionate in your day-to-day life. That will certainly improve the quality of your life.

There are additional ways to increase your mindfulness. You can join a meditation or get a Reiki session. These are great ways to increase mindfulness in a very focused way. In a meditation, you’ll often focus on chanting a mantra, which helps to increase focused attention. Some meditations will follow up chanting with a mindfulness meditation, which, as its name implies, is a practice of mindfulness. A Reiki session can help you handle stress better, be more relaxed, worry less, and/or being less emotionally reactive. If you’re having a hard time with your mindfulness practice, having a Reiki session can help get you in a good frame of mind to continue your practice.

Please do notice that I’m using the word ‘practice’ a lot through this article. Remember that mindfulness is a practice, something to continually develop and work at. Be gentle with yourself through this practice. Enjoy mindfulness, its benefits, and its wonderful effects.

If you’d like to book a Reiki session with Micha, please mention this article to receive 20% off your first session.

[1] http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/07-08/ce-corner.aspx

Posted on: July 27th, 2015 No Comments