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2018-I Welcome You! by Rae Roach

2017 .. it’s over!! And it was a DOOZY for so many of my friends and acquaintances. For me it was one of the easier years. Don’t get me wrong, there were major challenges, major changes and major growth but because of the self-work I have been doing (years of it..lol) I was able to handle it better than years prior. I can not go any farther without saying a very special thank you to those that went through it with me and are STILL by my side–I am grateful, humbled and in awe of each of you!! Truly not sure I could’ve made it without your support and love!

2018 .. If you are into numerology you will know this is an 11 Universal Year. (If you are not and want to know more please let me know–I LOVE numerology!!) When I realized this it hit me .. That is my Life Path 11/2. OMG this is MY year! With that knowledge I (easily) made the decision to forge my path, purpose and passion full-time. In the past this would have been extremely daunting, nerve wracking, with a big oh dose of WTH am I thinking!! Even as I sit here and write this I still feel none of those feelings. The knowledge that I AM worthy of the life I desire, I AM capable of achieving it, I DO have the knowledge though my experiences to impart on others, I CAN be helpful to those in need of guidance, I CAN and WILL be successful, I FOLLOW my gut instincts because I DO believe in my intuitive abilities. We ALL deserve the life you envision for yourself and YOU CAN achieve it.

In my self-work I have been studying many individuals in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. The ones I gravitate towards are Wayne Dyer, Don Miguel Ruiz, Sr and Jr, Don Jose Ruiz, Susan Jeffers, the teachings of Abraham Hicks and many more. Some of the things I have gleaned from these individuals were life-changing; feel the fear and do it anyway; stay in your vortex, you can’t solve the problem with the same mind that created it; you can only control to the tip of your finger; live authentically; don’t take things personal; your opinion of ME is none of MY business; give up your personal history and don’t die with the music still in you. These are just a few thoughts, or mantras, that I now live by; but, more importantly I have learned to embrace silence.

This weekend I attended a New Year—New You 2-day Workshop presented by Uma Alexandra Beepat, of Lotus Wellness Center, and Rob Pritchard, of The Healing Frequency. Among the many things we went over the one that resonated the most was the part about Fear. We were sitting in a circle and Uma asked us what fear was holding us back. I was at the end of the circle and as each participant talked about their individual fear(s) I felt a connection with each but had a serious revelation—I no longer felt the fear of them. Now, let me be completely honest here, just because I no longer felt the fear does NOT mean I no longer feel fearful. I do!! But what I realized was I no longer felt the crippling effect of fear.

You know what I’m referring to .. you can’t move or think or react rationally because the fear is palpable!!

This was a MAJOR breakthrough for me because I have constantly lived in fear; fear of the unknown, fear of what people thought of me, my decisions, the direction I truly wanted to go, fear that no one would accept me AS ME, and fear that I am unlovable. And that is just a few that come to mind!! How did these fears abate you might ask .. well as I mentioned above—YEARS of self-work. Let me tell you right here and right now …. IT WAS EXCRUCIATINGLY PAINFUL! The driving force was to just get through it! And as I sit on the other side of through I can look back with clear eyes and see the craziness of it all! We all think we are protecting ourselves by staying in our ‘comfort zones’ or by ignoring the problem/situation or swallowing the pain, hurt, guilt, shame, regret—you name it. But in truth, I never understood how confining my comfort zone was until I finally stepped out of it.

I now stand in my POWER with the knowledge that this life is for the taking .. it is mine .. it is yours .. it is ALL of OURS to take. The Universe is there to deliver to each of us our desires, we just have to realize, accept and step into it. There is no competition – I am not taking from you and you are not taking from me!

 

SO STEP INTO YOUR POWER!!

Feel the Fear and DO it anyway!!

Seriously, what do you have to lose?

2018 brings with it massive change and I welcome it with the excitement of a child .. What else is possible??

 

As I embark on this chapter of my life I wanted to let you know exactly what I will be doing and it is my desire that should you need guidance, assistance, counsel you will seek me out. I have a tribe that is also available to and for you and I look forward to connecting with you, or connecting you with my Tribe, so you too can start your journey to YOU!

 

 

The journey continues …

Rae Roach

 

 

 

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Posted on: January 2nd, 2018 No Comments

Essential Oils for Beginners

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Essential oils have been around for centuries but only recently began a rise to fame with the onset of popular oil producing industries such as DoTerra and Young Living.

As a wellness advocate for DoTerra and a certified level I aromatherapist, I love sharing my knowledge and expertise with oils with my clients. It is my intent to do so now with this article, to bring awareness and education to the general public of the wonderful, therapeutic benefits of essential oils as well as answer some popular questions concerning my involvement with an oil company.

Let’s start at the beginning.

What are essential oils?

Essential oils are natural, aromatic compounds extracted from seeds, bark, stems, roots, flowers, and other parts of a plant. Essential oils contain natural and unique properties that can have powerful benefits on a person’s health and wellness.

How do you use essential oils?

There are three known methods for oil usage but one of them is debatable in the oils community. Let’s discuss each:

  1. Aromatic: This is the most popular use of oils. Smelling them! This is also the easiest and safest way to use oils. All you have to do is buy a diffuser, drop 1-2 drops (more and it is too strong for me) in the water and voila! Beautiful smells in your room and therapeutic as well.
  2. Topical: You can use essential oils topically which means applying them to your skin. There are two ways to do this (depending on the nature of the essential oil), neat or diluted. Diluted means these essential oils should be mixed with a carrier oil to prevent sensitivity for the wearer. A carrier oil is a lipid based substance use to dilute oils (common carrier oils are coconut or jojoba oil). Neat means an essential oil can be applied topically to the skin without dilution because this particular oil has mild chemistry.
  3. Internal: Essential oils that can be used internally by adding them to beverages, food, use essential oil supplements or adding them to veggie caps for consumption. This method is the most controversial in the oil community because some say it is dangerous and risky and some say it has been done throughout history and it is fine.

How do I include oils in my daily regime?

There are lots of ways to use oils! Here are a few of my personal favorite oils and methods in using them:

1. Lavender:

  • Can be used topically or aromatically to increase relaxation and reduce stress.
  • Add a few drops to your pillow or diffuse at night time for restful sleep.
  • Add a few drops to a bath to soak away stress and relax the body

2. Peppermint:

  • Can be used on temples and back of neck for headaches and relieve tension.
  • Add to shampoo or conditioner for a stimulating scalp massage.
  • My personal favorite is to add to my morning shake to add a pepperminty taste and alleviate stomach upset.

3. Lemon:

  • Add to a spray bottle of water to clean kitchen surfaces (works so well!).
  • Add to water to create alkaline water for consumption.
  • Use to remove gum, glue or any other sticky residues.

4. Melaleuca (Tea Tree):

  • Apply to facial cleanser or after shaving for added cleansing properties.
  • Good for cuts, infections or wound healing.
  • Use as an effective surface cleaner like lemon oil.

5. Frankincense:

  • Apply topically to help reduce the appearance of skin imperfections, fine lines and wrinkles!
  • Diffuse during meditation for relaxation and balance.
  • Take internally to support healthy cellular and immune function.

 

Bottom line is simple, there are many oils and many therapeutic benefits associated with each oil. You don’t need to figure it out yourself! This is where someone like me and my team come in. We take the necessary training and have the experience with each oil to share our information with you.

If you are in the Northern Virginia area, stop by one of our monthly Essential Oils 101 classes. You can find a calendar of our oil events here: www.meetup.com/thelotusandthelight.

If you have been clicking on the links to each oil, you would have been taken to my website and seen the retail prices. My advice is simple, sign up for a membership and get the wholesale price for the oils. If you are interested in adding oils to your daily routines this is my recommendation:

  1. Contact me today to discuss your options and what products you would use for your goals.
  2. If you wanted to do it on your own without my help, check out the products on my website www.mydoterra.com/lotuswellness1. You can either sign up for a wholesale account (think Costco for oils! You pay $35 annual fee and can get the lower prices) or buy them retail.
  3. Whichever option you go with, my suggestion is to get the Home Essentials Starter Kit. If you worked out the pricing for the 10 oils, free gift, diffuser and an annual enrollment fee, it works out to be an inexpensive option!

I have felt so empowered following the oil track and being able to take care of myself and loved ones. And that to me, is the greatest gift I can give myself.

Love and light until next time,

Uma xo

 

 

 

Posted on: October 6th, 2016 No Comments

Opinions Do Not Define My Reality

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People surprise me everyday. Just when I think I have an understanding of the human race, someone goes and pulls a stunt to make me question why I am on this planet still. I get it. I think differently and tend to do things differently but still…..we can’t be this self serving.

I think this will be one of my more important blog posts because I am sure….I am CONFIDENT that there are people who suffer because of silliness like this. Luckily for me, I was born without a sensor and will break it down in hopefully a helpful way to help those who cannot help themselves. You know who you are, the meek, the mild and the walked on people of the world.

Today an incident came up that reminded me no matter how far you go, how much lessons you learn, there will still be challenges to overcome. AND if you are not strong in your belief, if you are not confident in your path…someone somewhere can really knock you down.

I have a person in my life that is well, a little difficult for me to handle. I am NOT saying this person is a difficult person. I am saying that interacting with this person is a difficult task for me.

Let’s be real. You are not going to get along with everyone you meet. We are all different personalities and you tend to hang out with the ones similar to you and stay far,far away from the ones that are a complete polar opposite to you. I should have stayed far away because this person and I? complete opposites. Funny thing about after a blow out, you always knew it would come to this. With this person, I knew from the moment I met him that we would have very different views on many things. His behavior and demeanor is different to mine. I always kept my impressions to myself about this person because its just that, MY impressions….not reality, just my opinion. However isn’t it funny the way life works? Soon others would come to me and mention things about this person that I myself felt. I would nod and listen but silently think to myself, isn’t this funny? I think the same thing.

However, I believe in giving everyone a fair chance. I don’t judge, I pay attention. Throughout the years of knowing this person, I have noticed several things that bother me, but I always take the blame on it. “You know he doesn’t know better, he doesn’t know how he comes across, he didn’t mean it, he is really a nice person but just an unsettling presence.” However today, no more.

This person and I had it out in a back and forth email brawl and when I realized the difference of our opinions, lifestyles, beliefs were not going to change, I conceded defeat by choosing to walk away from this person AND wishing them well. I get that some people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and I have gotten really good at ending friendships in a casual way without hurting or insulting the other person.

I promised I would still speak highly of them to others because of his career (he is really good at what he does professionally) but this whole experience left a bitter taste in my mouth and I chose to end the friendship part of our interactions and stick with the professional association.

Clearly I was wrong somewhere because this person came back in attack mode. He made me to understand that I was rude and disrespectful, I felt like I did no wrong, I did not or do not apologize for wrong behavior and I had anger issues.

STOP. See its a lucky thing I am me and I know better. I have been in this situation before and thankfully, I learned not to succumb to the pressure of “Well if several people tell you the same thing, maybe they are right.”

No they are not right. That is their view. That is their opinion of me and I have a real, rude awakening for you folks…here it is: Your Opinion Does Not Define My Reality. 

In fact, NO ONE’S opinion of you defines your reality. That is their perception. So let’s think about this. There may be five people right now who think I am rude and disrespectful with an anger issue. If I put this fact in a bubble, it makes me feel insecure. Wow, people really think I am such and such. And 5 people? Oh wow, that’s a lot, so maybe I need to stop and think about this.

Take it out the bubble and remind myself of the fact that I have over 400 Facebook friends, over 1000 real life friends and over 2,000 acquaintances/ work colleagues/ family members and that 5 don’t seem like such a big deal.

I know the Yogis believe that everything and everyone is a mirror. So technically this person calling me rude and disrespectful is really describing himself (which by the way is a correct evaluation of him given the exchange). Does that help? A little. You know what helps more? Realizing that not everyone can handle you. I am not everyone’s cup of tea and if I try to become so, then I have to weaken my strength to become acceptable and dare i say it, “drinkable” for the masses.

I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be bearable. I didn’t come in this world to dim my shine to make others feel comfortable. I am who I am and I proudly stand by it.

Now this by no means is a green card to do what you want and as you please without regard for other’s safety and care. You have to always be respectful and kind wherever necessary. However if someone crosses your boundary, then absolutely…give them hell.

My boyfriend? Nicest guy in the world but he will tell you plainly, “I give someone three complimentary punches to my face before I retaliate. The first time might be a mistake, the second time you are more sure but by the third time, you are definitely certain this is the path you want to go down in which case, I will respond.”

With this person today, we were going back and forth over email about a dispute we were having. I was firm and to the point about it and this clearly was too much for him. He came back with the insults of calling me rude and disrespectful and that’s when the boundary was crossed. I had not described him or his attributes in any way. The gloves came off.

Needless to say, I have no problem walking away from this problem person because:

1) I have my ethics and integrity as I know the issues I was having with this person has happened before to other people who confided in me about their situations with him.

2) I value myself over all others so his impressions of me meant nothing to me. I did not think of myself as rude or disrespectful and what really matters is what I think of myself, not what him or others think of me.

3) His opinion represents his thoughts of me and the situation at hand. I do not need to surround myself with people who feel I am capable of being unfair or judgmental.

There is a Guyanese saying that my mom frequently uses with me, “Girl your mouth na left in your mother’s belly.” Meaning that I had guts and I was fearless. I was going to speak up no matter what and say what I have to say.

I wish everyone was like this. If they were, can you imagine? No more miscommunication, no hidden or mixed messages or signals, everything would be out in the open! We would know without a shadow of a doubt who was for us and against us. And you know what? We would be ok with it.

So why am I sharing my little ordeal today with you? Because I know this happens to you too. You get into a dispute with someone, they come out swinging and calling you names or falsely making accusations against your character and feel justified because they said it. They said it, it is out in the open so it must be true right? No, its not.

I am asking you to reclaim your power. How do you reclaim it? You reclaim your power by NOT believing everything said or written to you. You know how you spell check your essay? Well double check the content being delivered to you. Check the angle the person is coming from. Is it from a good place or a negative place? Are they trying to help you or bring you down? What is the motive?

This person feels I believe I am always right. My boyfriend could easily clear that up for him. Many times my love and I have discussions where he brings forth information in a loving and caring manner. I think about it, I double check it and then I either disagree or agree with him (more times than not I agree with him cause he is super smart!) and I have no problem admitting my fault or apologizing for something I did. Why? Because these were not attacks on my character, it was delivered with tact and love and it was meant to grow me not harm me.

So the next time this happens to you, run it through your fact checker before you allow someone else’s opinion to define you. Heck even if you agree with them, it still doesn’t define you because guess what? You can change.

This life is beautiful because at every turn we are given a chance to change, to grow, to live and learn. The people in your life should be helping you with these lessons not attacking you or bringing you down. Don’t give them that power….reclaim it and live your life for you. No excuses and no feelings of regret. You can do this, I believe in you and heck… I will say it! If I can do it, you can too.

Love and light and until next time,

~Uma~

Posted on: March 3rd, 2015 No Comments